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7 Ultimate Ways to Travel with Your Partner for the First Time

After years of traveling solo, I finally got a chance to travel with my beau. And here's a warning, there are some adjustments that you need to make when you travel with your partner for the first time, especially when you get so used to being a solo traveler !

So far, I've spent a month and a half traveling with my partner in total. It's not a full-time travel, since my boyfriend works 9-to-5 , but we managed to be together for a month in Southeast Asia without killing each other and a short trip around Turkey (also known as Turkiye) recently seems to make us long for our next journey to travel together as a couple.

In this post, I'm going to share some ways to travel with your partner, based on what works for me and my beau. So, here are some tips for traveling as couple travelers for the first time!

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How to Travel with Your Partner for the First Time

Traveling with your partner can be a make-or-break in your relationship, because I believe traveling will eventually reveal your true color as an individual that you may find either the red flags or the reason for you to lean on to them when things go wrong.

For me, traveling is the only way for me to even be with my boyfriend in the first place since we've been in a long-distance relationship for almost one year now. Just like probably every couple who started planning to travel together, we were both nervous that we were going to end up killing each other on the trip. Thankfully, it didn't happen so here are some things that I think work when it comes to traveling together as a couple!

1. Be transparent about your traveling style

Before planning a trip together, be clear about your traveling style and preference so that you can anticipate what could possibly become a problem when you travel together. It will probably be easier if you occasionally travel before, so you get the hunch on what you like and what you don't when you explore a new place on your own or with a partner.

In my case, I know I'm not one for a fixed itinerary. I like to travel slowly and explore to see what I really want to see about the place. I'm quite price-sensitive when it comes to accommodation , so I tend to focus more on affordability and comfort. The same goes for meals, as my Southeast Asian gene isn't really fussy about hygiene that I could almost eat anything without having a problem when I travel.

My boyfriend is pretty much the opposite in a way, as he'd rather list all the places he wants to see each day, although he's quite flexible on whether we can visit everything on the list that day. He prefers comfort because he thinks that's the point of being on holiday, on top of that he's also a picky eater so while he's up to trying new food, his stomach might not respond to it the same way as I do.

When you know what's the deal with your partner, you tend to be more prepared on D-day and it will also help you find the common ground on what you want to do or where you want to go.

Communication is the key, so talk it out and see how you can manage all these differences in your traveling style. Trust me on this, the communication during the travel planning will definitely trigger your instinct whether your first trip as a couple will be a success!

2. Be prepared to compromise

So you know how compromise is the key to any kind of relationship. Well, so is it when you plan to travel together with your partner.

Love needs some kind of sacrifice, and that's the truth. And if it's to compromise and adjust your thing to theirs, then so be it. In my case, I tend to be more careful about picking the place to eat when we travel, though in the end, my boyfriend ended up getting diarrhea anyway when he got home. Which I find weird, because he was just fine when we were together and as soon as he got home, he literally had to get some additional sick days for almost two weeks.

Since I told my boyfriend that I'm price-sensitive when it comes to choosing accommodation, he compromises to pay the bigger cut for accommodation so we can afford the place that he prefers as long as we stay on a budget.

Just like any relationship in general, in order to make it work, you need to work as a team to cater to each other's needs. Be ready to compromise, because if there's anything I've learned from traveling with my beau in the past few months, some people are just worth compromising for.

3. Respect each other's space

My partner and I are introverts, so having our own space is important for us respectively, and we try to respect each other's space despite being together for the whole trip. On our first trip together, we booked an apartment with two separate bedrooms just to make sure that we had our own space whenever needed. Not to mention that I occasionally still have to work in between our travel.

Some hotel rooms that we stayed in also come with twin beds, although we mostly booked rooms with a double bed. I mean, come on… What's the point of traveling together as a couple if you can't have the intimacy you deserve after a long day of traveling, right? 😛

When we traveled, we never really argued about anything. Maybe once or twice when we were in a really bad mood. But it was never too long. More often than not, it was also because we still got our own space to cool down despite being together 24/7 on our trip.

4. Split responsibilities and make them accessible to everyone so you can hold each other accountable

Relationship is all about teamwork, and planning a trip together as a couple is no different. Split the responsibilities, and hold each other accountable so that instead of micromanaging every move, you can give each other feedback on how to make the trip easier and more fun for everyone.

As we have to plan our trip online since we're in a long-distance relationship to begin with, we take advantage of the vast technology there is to plan a trip for us.

We usually create a Google Sheet and make it accessible for both of us. We always make three sheets on the Google Sheet and label them accordingly: Marya (me), Sam (my boyfriend), and Us.

My responsibility is to usually list the accommodation where we're going to stay as well as the pros and cons for each accommodation, while my boyfriend's responsibility is to usually do some research on where to go or what to do in our destination.

We'll give each other heads up when we update the sheet, so when we have a video date, we will brainstorm the best way to visualize our trip before adding the list in the sheet that's labeled “Us.” We usually fill the latter when we both agree about things so we have all the information needed for our trip there, before finally making the final draft of our itinerary for each day of our trip together as a couple.

In terms of money, we also use the TravelSpend app to track our expenses so it will be easier for us to settle our “travelimony”, basically the money we owe each other after our travel. LOL. As we both use Wise , we can also transfer money easily for all the transactions needed for our travel.

I think it's a great way to make sure that each one of us has a say on things before we decide anything, and I think that it's also fundamental to contribute to making sure that the first time you travel with your partner will be a success!

5. Make time to socialize with other people

If there's anything I've learned about having some secret, toxic relationships in the past, it is that you can never know the true person behind your partner until you're going out publicly as a couple in front of other people, sometimes strangers.

So, while being on a romantic vacation seems like a great way to spice up your relationship, remember that this is not your honeymoon… At least not yet. So, instead of focusing on quality time just the two of you, make time to socialize with other people, be it with your friends or even new people.

When we were in Chiang Rai , we decided to join a Thai cooking class where we could connect with new people so we wouldn't get stuck being with each other as an item. We also managed to get on a double date with my university friend in my hometown, and we had our first Couchsurfing experience together when we met Ali in Canakkale, Turkiye , recently.

I think socializing with other people will also test your relationship in a good way, because you'll know your partner's character more when you don't stay inside your own bubble during your whole travel.

6. Add a lazy day to just stay in and do nothing

After all traveling and socializing, it's important to spare some time to unwind and do nothing even during your trip. Plan a lazy day to stay in, so you can enjoy each other's presence more than just exploring a new place together.

On this day, it will be a free day for both of us so you don't even have to go out if you don't want to. Maybe it's time to dive deep into Netflix and chill on this day, or you can plan a day to make a romantic dinner just the two of you. Cook together if you can, if not you can also take advantage of UberEat or anything alike in your destination.

I genuinely believe that the best kind of quality time is when you can be alone together without any pressure, possibly doing random stuff. Or maybe it's just an introvert in me.

7. Start creating memories together

Last but not least, don't overthink it. Planning is the key, but overthinking the possible result of traveling with your partner for the first time will only stop yourself from starting to create memories and exploring the world together.

Be open to new things that you can do together, because as much as I love traveling solo, I realized there are things I miss out on when I travel solo. For instance, I can get a much better accommodation for a lower price as I split the cost with my partner.

And while my boyfriend isn't exactly someone who could take Instagram-worthy pics, he's actually the one who would go post the pics on his Facebook so my mom could lurk in once in a while about what we do and where we go.

After falling sick while traveling solo and getting my wallet stolen , I know how comforting it is to have someone else beside you when you travel, so I'm glad that I've finally got someone with whom I could share my travel memories together!

FAQ about Traveling with Your Partner

In this section, I'm going to answer a few frequently asked questions about traveling as a couple and traveling with your partner, so you can see how it is from my perspective and whether it's your cup of tea. So, here we go!

Is traveling with your partner a good idea when you're not married?

Traveling with your partner before marriage is frowned upon, especially if you come from a strong religious community. However, I see more benefits than downsides when traveling as couple travelers.

First of all, traveling together can reveal your compatibility as a partner as well as an individual. It exposes you to new things that you need to overcome, together and respectively. It brings out your strength and weakness as a unit, in which you can portray how you could live with them in the future and whether there are some icks that you may need to communicate before taking your relationship into the next step.

I know reading map is my weakness, and I'm glad that my boyfriend, despite being slightly dyslexic, he's actually better at reading maps than I am. While traveling together, we also slowly learned to manage finance together so if we ever get married one day, we'll get used to it in a way.

All and all, I definitely recommend traveling with your boyfriend or girlfriend once in a while because not only will it give you the opportunity to get away from your typical routine in a new destination, it can potentially make your relationship stronger than ever.

How long should you date before traveling together as a couple?

It may vary for everyone, but I would suggest not traveling together too soon as a couple. I mean, some people made it to travel as a couple as soon as they met, but like I said before, traveling with your partner can be a make-or-break for your relationship so it's better to give some time to make sure that you know your partner as an individual.

My first trip with my ex was a bit too soon as I traveled with him when we only knew each other for a month, and it didn't end well.

My boyfriend and I only started the idea of traveling together eventually on the second month since we started talking to each other, and then when he calculated the soonest time he could take a long leave from his work, he said it could only be around five months from then. So we managed to get to know each other during that period, and we kinda expect what will happen when we travel together.

In my case, I'm happy with the result and I think before anything else, having a strong connection with your partner is the one that you need the most before deciding to travel together as a couple.

Who pays for the trip when you travel together as a couple?

Finance is a sensitive topic as a couple, but it's important to talk about it. So the best way to do it is to communicate with your partner about how you settle your travel finance fairly.

Again, it may vary for everyone because some people may be able to fund all the trips for two people, while others may split the costs based on their agreement as a couple. Whichever that is, there is no right or wrong for this question because it all depends on how you communicate with your partner.

It's also another reason why I would encourage couples to travel together. Because you're forced to be transparent about finance and all the sensitive issues that have the tendency to showcase their vulnerability. I mean, it's a bit hard to talk about my finances with other people, but I'm glad I can be honest with my boyfriend.

However you think the best to split the cost, it'll definitely encourage teamwork between the two of you. So, be ready for it and see how you can thrive together as a couple traveling together!

Traveling with your partner is an incredible way to deepen your relationship as a couple to the next level. When you decide to plan a trip with your partner, it means you're ready to let out the thin layer that goes between you when you don't have to deal with each other all the time.

When you travel together, you can share each other's interests while also working on the plan in a way that it can be fun for both of you. It's a great way to bond, and you'll see the true color of your partner in a way that you can see the real them without any filter.

The important thing is to work as a team, while supporting each other so you can thrive together in the whole trip. So, are you ready to hit the road and plan your first trip as a couple traveling together?

Marya The BeauTraveler

I am the founder and main editor at The BeauTraveler. I spent 4 years working in the aviation industry but ironically got to travel more right after quitting the industry in 2015. Born and raised in Indonesia, I started working remotely in 2017, and while I stay at home most of the time, I also regularly spend 2-3 months living a semi-digital nomad life elsewhere every year.

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First Vacation With Boyfriend (27 Tips On How To Spend Your First Vacation With Him)

You’ve been seeing this guy for a while, and you have to say things have been going well between you. Your relationship is new and exciting, but beyond the fun you have, you’re starting to consider there might be something more meaningful budding.

Then one Friday evening, he’s at your place, both of you are chilling, and boom! He casually brings up something serious out of nowhere . “We should go on vacation together.” Maybe yours didn’t quite happen like that. Hell, it was probably even your idea or better yet, a joint one as a reward for working so hard.

How the idea came up matters little in this context; what does is that you’re going on your first vacation with your partner! I bet your initial reaction was excitement , but if you’re anything like me, you’ve probably also thought about a thousand and one ways things can go wrong.

We hear about vacation failures all the time. While it gives many couples interesting dinner stories, you’re not quite sure your relationship is mature enough to survive such mishaps yet. Well, how about you go through the following tips and see how you feel afterward?

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27 Tips on How to Spend Your First Vacation With Your Partner

1. consider if this is a good time for a trip together.

Just because he’s asked doesn’t mean your relationship is ready for this step. Do you feel comfortable with each other yet? Do an honest assessment to see if spending that much time together would help improve things between you and not go the other way around. 

If it was his idea, it might help to ask the reason he has in mind. Does he just want you guys to relax, is it a random romantic gesture, or is his intended purpose getting you acquainted with his friends or family? Knowing this will help you determine whether or not you’re ready for the vacay.

2. Determine your and your partner’s idea of an ideal vacation

Now, what do you picture when you think of a holiday? Does it tally with what your man has in mind for this trip? Since this would be your first time together, I think it would be fair for everyone to be on the same page. 

You may be of the impression that you’d be going to a serene place where you can be one with nature. But if he’s more of a city and luxury kind of guy, one of you may end up disappointed.

3. Can you afford it? Can he?

The previous point will help you know how to budget. Once your destination and a rough idea of the kind of activities you hope to do is on lock, the next thing to naturally discuss is the cost. This part may be uncomfortable, especially if your relationship is still relatively new, but it’s better to hash it out before you go on the trip.

4. Find out for yourself with a short trial trip

Beyond the money part, which is one of the most  common causes  of couple fights, by the way, can you stand each other for a long time at a stretch? Arrange an exploratory trip, maybe a weekend away, for the two of you and see how that goes. If you end up fighting more than you bond, you might want to reconsider this trip.

5. Plan the main trip together

If you do make it past the mock-getaway, it’s time to start planning. Make sure to review each side’s opinions on the proposed destination, accommodation, and transport standard as well as the budget, and a rough idea of what you each want to do. While spontaneity is also a viable plan, it’s best not to leave too much to chance on your first getaway with a partner.

6. Choose a convenient locale

Before you decide on your destination, make sure it’s not somewhere too far or too stressful for this first time. If the place you’ve always wanted to visit with a partner will require two to three flights, you might want to save that for your next trip or the one after that. 

Go to a place where the fun can start right away rather than where you’d both need days to adjust to the living condition or tend to your health.

7. Get your mind in vacation mode

As the date draws closer and you excitedly plan and make bookings, don’t forget to prepare your mind too. Get yourself mentally ready to travel and enjoy your stay there. Clear as much of the things that you know may continuously draw your consciousness back home as you can. We’ll talk about your expectations for the journey in a minute.

8. Give your body a treat

While you work on the mind, remember to extend the same courtesy to your body. Invest in a full baby girl treatment and let the relaxation start from home. Groom all that needs grooming, and do all you deem necessary to get that body ready. This will help you feel more confident and comfortable in your own skin, not to mention how much your beau would appreciate it.

9. Pack light

Even if you’re talented in the art of folding and arranging a heap of stuff to fit into a backpack, the more you load, the heavier it becomes. Depending on where you’re going, you may need to haul around your bags for hours at a stretch. Also, having too many loads means more things to keep an eye on. 

10. Keep your itinerary loose

Like I said, having a rough idea of what you would be doing is advisable. Yet, it is just as important to leave room for changing your mind if the need arises. You may get there and realize not everything is as advertised or that you enjoy some other things more. Keeping your schedule loose gives you more wiggle room even if you don’t end up needing it.

11. Make your expectations realistic

Your expectations for a trip can make or mar your overall experience. If you intend to have a tension-free vacation, try not to get your hopes up too much. 

Disappointments usually come up in ways that are out of your hands and can ruin the whole thing if you expect every single thing to be magical. Apply this mindset to everything from your journey to the sex, and you may just be pleasantly surprised.

12. Have a plan for if things go south

Don’t just level your hopes, you and your partner should actively anticipate setbacks and plan against them. How will you handle unexpected weather conditions? What happens if your flight gets canceled or you get robbed? What if the hotel somehow omits your reservation, etc. 

Preparing for  setbacks  like these beforehand reduces, to a large extent, how deeply it affects you and how fast you can fix it.

13. Allocate enough time for the purpose of your trip

Most holiday destinations are packed with various activities that you and your partner will most likely get immersed in. 

Notwithstanding, you two shouldn’t get so carried away with these things that you forget your reason for traveling in the first place. Whether that is to spend quality time together, reunite with old friends, or meet family members, keep that purpose at the top of your list.

14. Spend some time apart

Traveling with your partner isn’t a mandate to spend every second of the trip together. Of course, you should spend most of the whole thing with him as it wouldn’t feel like much of a couple thing otherwise. 

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Nevertheless, consider giving each other space for a while to do some independent stuff. This ensures that no one gets choked up, and you actually enjoy the moments you have with one another.

15. Do things you each want to do

What makes for a fulfilling vacation is knowing you gotta make some unforgettable memories with the person you love and also crossed some things, if not all, off your bucket list. This is where all the planning ahead of the journey comes in. 

Your budget and schedule should include a number of your individual must-do activities so that even if you compromise on other things, those important ones happen.

16. Don’t let FOMO drive you

The fear of missing out is a real thing where you focus on what others may be doing that you’re missing out on. It is a form of social anxiety that sucks out the joy in what you’re actually doing and consumes you with what you aren’t. 

If you know you’re prone to this, make a list of the must-dos I mentioned that you can realistically achieve, and consciously try to enjoy the rest without pressure.

17. Make friends with other people

Whether individually or as a couple, try and mingle with other people over there. Make friends with other vacationers you find interesting as well as locals that you can communicate with. 

You may be positively surprised to learn of some fantastic spots your travel agents didn’t notice, not to mention a relationship that could bud from there. Just be careful not to let your guard down or trust too deeply in case they have ulterior motives.

18. Make a road trip out of it

If the season is right and you have ample time, you could trade in your flight tickets for a rental vehicle and make it a road trip ! You can create a playlist, pack the car full of snacks, and drive off into the sunset. 

You’ll have stops, get to switch places if you both enjoy driving, and though you may be exhausted by the time you reach your destination, you’d have made memories en route. 

19. Keep an open mind

You’re more likely to enjoy your trip with an open mind than without, more so when you go with a guy. In addition to the fact that it keeps you flexible enough to want to try new things (which you may end up loving), it also enhances your problem-solving skills. 

Don’t limit your experience to what you’re familiar with only. Try local cuisines, experience their culture, have a taste of what they’re known for, and try to say yes more than no to your companion.

20. Go easy on the booze

What happens in ‘X’ may indeed stay there, but remember, this is your first vacation together. By all means, feel free to act like a Roman when in Rome. Still, keep your wits about you so you don’t overindulge and exceed your tolerance . 

This should also apply to food and other consumables. You don’t want your man tending to you when he’s supposed to be having fun now, do you?

21. Remain mindful of your budget

Amidst all the fun, remember that what isn’t prepaid will still come out of you or your man’s pockets. With this being your first trip together and all, he may choose to suffer in silence rather than curb your spending and make you uncomfortable. 

You know how sensitive money talks can be. To avoid putting him in this difficult position, try and hold some money on your own so you can splurge without weighing on your joint fund.

22. Keep sensitive topics at home

Hopefully, you’ll have plenty to talk about and learn about each other on this trip. While you should try and remain as natural as possible, you should also be mindful of the things you bring up and how you react. 

Avoid blowing things out of proportion, and any issue that may fester into resentment or potentially taint your experience shouldn’t come up. Or better yet, settle them before you travel.

23. Communicate when you’re uncomfortable and encourage your partner to do the same

Not everything he does will sit right with you and vice versa. Even if one stays long enough with an angel, faults are bound to come up. An excellent way to follow my previous point is to talk issues over rather than leave them to pile. 

Try to let things go as often as you can, so you don’t come off as a nag. But also encourage each other to communicate the ones that upset you despite your best efforts to stay positive.

24. Don’t let setbacks rain on your parade

When the mishaps we’ve been talking about eventually show up, remember you’ve prepared for them and see solving them as a bonding process. The challenges you encounter may not be the ones you planned for, but if neither of you gets overly worked up, chances are they won’t be beyond fixing. 

See them as an adventure within an adventure and set a reward as motivation for getting through them. 

25. Live in the moment and not on your phone

Between the many Insta-worthy backgrounds and the dreamy experience, you’ll likely have, the temptation to immortalize everything in pictures will be high. 

However, while it feels great to update your online followers that you’ve arrived, focusing too hard on that can make you miss out on the moment instead of living it. Social media aside, limit your gadget time generally, including checking up on home and work.

26. Take time to truly relax

Whatever your goals are for this trip, I imagine kicking back is on the list. Between the fun stuff, the challenges, and the calculations, be sure not to trade your rest for anything. Take a break from all the activities for a while and just laze about in your hotel room. You may or may not have so much time to sleep, but I’m sure you can come up with other ways to unwind.

27. Take in the sights and enjoy yourselves

Most importantly, have a swell time! Even if all goes well and you two make a habit of traveling together, there are so many places to explore worldwide that you may never return to this destination. So, take as much of it in as you can, so you can go back home fulfilled . 

When should your first trip with your boyfriend be?

Many people believe a couple can be ready for their first trip within three months of being together. On the other hand, some think it’s never too early to go on a romantic trip with your man. It’s all about how well you know him and how comfortable you are with each other.

Where should I go on vacation with my boyfriend?

You should consider the destination that means something to both of you. A place where you can both achieve the things you want to do without one person feeling left out. It helps to do the research together so you can compare and contrast.

Is it too soon to go on vacation together?

If you are seeing someone and asking if it’s too soon to go vacationing together, chances are that it is. While how long you’ve been going out doesn’t seem to matter to some people, you should wait to settle into the relationship if it bothers you.

How do couples survive their first vacation?

You shouldn’t make your initial trips as a couple on a whim as you have no prior knowledge of what the other person is like on them. But if you prepare properly and tackle challenges with open minds without losing focus of the getaway’s purpose, you should do fine.

What is the 3-month rule?

Three months is a modest period to be in a relationship with someone before going on a holiday with them. Since traveling together implies a commitment on a certain level, anything earlier may be too soon.

To Conclude

So, would you say you’re ready for this trip, or should I mind my business? Provided committing too early isn’t your issue, the tips above should cover all you need. Nevertheless, if you think I missed something or have further questions, let me know in the comment section and kindly share the article while you’re here.

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Your First Couple’s Vacation: A Dozen Destinations to Consider

A successful and enjoyable first couple’s vacation starts with choosing the right destination, and we’ve got a dozen for you to choose from.

A couple’s vacation is a completely different experience than traveling alone or with friends. The old adage says that if you can survive a road trip with each other, you may just have a shot—and there’s some truth to that! There is an art to traveling with a partner, and ensuring that you have a successful and enjoyable first couple’s vacation starts with choosing the right destination!

Where should you go? What kind of trip works best for your first time traveling together? That’s where we come in. Grab a comfy spot—we’re here to answer those questions and more, and we’ve compiled a list of 12 of the best romantic getaways and adventure destinations!

Bond over a scavenger hunt !

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Criteria for the Perfect First Couple’s Vacation

No trip is going to be perfect for every couple. We are all individuals and enjoy different things, and every love is unique. That’s why we have included all kinds of travel experiences on this list. However, there are a few travel tips to consider in a first trip destination to help ensure smooth travel, minimal stress, and plenty of fun!

1. Choose something short and close to home.

When traveling with a new partner, there is a lot of uncertainty. You don’t really know how this is going to go. Travel can be really stressful, and that is expounded the bigger and more complex the trip is.

If you are on a plane for 12 hours, you arrive exhausted. You have jet lag and feel like poop. You then have to rent a car and drive in a foreign country, which will test even the strongest of marriages for that first 30 minutes. You might not speak the language, and you likely won’t have cell service for a bit, and Google Maps will fail you. Big, international travel is full of these little inconveniences that can really add up. Then, heaven forbid, if you break up, you are stuck far from home, with someone who is likely the last person you want to be around.

To avoid all this mess, keep your first trip within a few hours of home, and limit it to a few days at most. Short flights are cheaper, should you have to retreat, and you will likely feel more at ease through the trip. Limiting the trip to a few days will be long enough to know if it is going to work, and not too long to get sick of each other.

Pro Tip: You could also choose somewhere that you have been before. Familiarity decreases the stress level immensely.

2. Choose a place where you can enjoy some downtime.

Your new relationship needs some alone time to mature. Sure, Las Vegas and New York are amazing, but you don’t want to be surrounded by tourists and crowds the entire time. Pick a place that gives you the option of seclusion for at least part of your trip. Plan activities sparingly. You can always add more if you get bored, but if you have pre-booked a packed itinerary, and your partner hates it, then you are kind of stuck.

3. Choose somewhere that fits both your travel styles.

You may find that your partner exhibits a very different travel style than you. That isn’t a bad thing, and it doesn’t mean you can’t travel successfully together. You both will need to make compromises, but that is the nature of a relationship anyway, so it’s good practice.

Talk with your significant other before you start trip planning. Compare notes on how you travel. Do you stay in hostels or all-inclusive resorts? Do you generally eat at restaurants, buy groceries at local stores, or brave all the street food? Do you enjoy a packed itinerary, or are you looking for some downtime? Do you prefer budget public transit, or are you more of a private shuttle traveler? All good information to discuss before you’re on the road together! Collect your answers and look for a place where you can both be comfortable.

4. Choose a destination with easy amenities.

Even if your destination is close to home, some places are just harder to travel that others. Choose a destination that doesn’t stretch your travel chops too much for your first trip together! Battling language barriers, huge crowds, hot weather, difficult transit, too many location changes, or even hard-to-handle foods can really produce an unpleasant experience. This is especially true if you are not both avid travelers. For your first vacation as a couple, keep it simple!

5. Choose somewhere on both your wish lists.

You want your premier travel experience to be one that you both remember fondly! Your best bet is to choose a destination that both of you have been dreaming of. Since you likely will have activities on your list already, it also makes for easier trip planning!

The Perfect Travel Destinations for Your First Couple Trip

1. an all-inclusive resort in the dominican republic.

The greener half of the island of Hispaniola is popular with honeymooners and beach bums. The Dominican excels at making vacation easy! Its beaches are stunning. The locals are super-friendly. Most everyone speaks English in the tourist areas, and the DR’s laid-back vibe is perfect for the first vacation as a couple. Plus, the Dominican is one of the most budget-friendly places to experience an all-inclusive trip.

If you don’t mind splurging a bit, check in to Tortuga Bay in Punta Cana . There are plenty of beautiful resorts in the area, but Tortuga sits in the center of a 1,500-acre nature reserve, so it isn’t hemmed by other resorts on all sides. It feels secluded, and it was designed by the late Oscar de la Renta to fit into the surroundings, unlike some others. The amenities are top-notch. It’s not the cheapest resort on the island, and an ocean-view suite will cost you around $6,000 for the week, but you will want for nothing. For a cheaper option, if you don’t mind being in the middle of the action, Iberostar Grand Bavaro provides beautiful suites and all the amenities for around $3,000 per week.

2. Adventure in Nearest National Park

The United States is filled with incredible national parks. From the soaring peaks of Olympic NP to the swampy bayous of the Everglades, every portion of The States has something to show off. Choose the national park that is nearest to you and spend a couple of days getting to know each other, surrounded by the beauty of nature.

We wouldn’t suggest doing super long hikes or camping in the backcountry. Getting lost in the wilderness might be a bit too much for your first trip together. Instead, find a nice cabin or hotel room just outside the park and enjoy a couple of days of adventuring. Take a couple of day hikes. Go on a guided wildlife tour. Enjoy sunsets in your hot tub, and spend your evenings under starry skies.

3. A Wellness Retreat in Topanga, California

What could be more relaxing than an entire vacation dedicated to your well-being? Wellness travel is trending at the moment, and fantastic retreat complexes dedicated to all manner of spiritual, mental, and physical health are popping up all over the world, and we can’t think of a better first trip together.

For a well-rounded, minimalist retreat, head for the hill of California and book a spot in Katie Sadler’s Impact Retreat. Not only is the modern facility stunning, but Katie is a no-mess, no-fuss instructor that digs deep and covers it all! Her program includes nutrition consults, fitness routines, spiritual wellbeing, and even fashion consultations. Doing the program together will be an incredible bonding experience, and you will certainly get to know each other on a far more intimate level.

For more information on this style of travel, check out our guide “Wellness Travel and What It Can Do for You.”

4. Romance in Tulum

Tulum is the perfect Caribbean destination for a romantic getaway. Not only does it have some of Mexico’s most pristine and curated beachfront, but the small boutique hotel vibe is just what the relationship doctor ordered. While not very authentic, Tulum is adorable! You can wander the town on rented bikes, take a day trip to swim in one of the cenotes, visit the incredible Mayan ruins, eat at some of the cutest eateries on earth, and just enjoy that Caribbean life.

The flight to Cancun is usually pretty budget-friendly and short. You will need to secure transport to and from Tulum, which can be on the local shuttle, or you can arrange a private shuttle to pick you up at the airport through your hotel. Tulum is loaded with gorgeous boutique hotels in several price ranges. We do recommend that for a romantic getaway you stay in the “hotel zone” on the beach and not in the center of Tulum.

5. The Full Package in Antigua, Guatemala

Antigua is a charming Spanish-Colonial city just a 20-minute Uber from the capital of Guatemala City. It’s a gorgeous little town with loads of tourist activities and romantic ruins around every corner. Antigua is hemmed in by three volcanoes and features panoramic views in all directions. The cobblestone streets are perfect for hand-in-hand strolling. There is a fun chocolate factory to explore and several traditional cooking classes. There are also plenty of options for food of all kinds and several great bars for an evening drink.

Antigua is also a wonderland for adventure lovers. It is one of the best places on earth to hike an active volcano, is in close proximity to watersports on Lake Atitlan, and guided adventure activities are available all throughout the city for great prices!

6. Lazy Days in Savannah, Georgia

Savannah is oozing with Southern charm and romance. Giant live oaks, dripping in Spanish moss, and Antebellum mansions around every turn. It’s a beautiful city with tons of green areas and parks and lots of walking paths. Stroll along the waterfront at sunset. Take a characteristic trolley tour. Enjoy some Southern cooking and craft beer. Shop, dine, and dance on River Street and peruse the local art in Savannah City Market. If you need a bit of a thrill, take your love on a haunted scavenger hunt with Let’s Roam!

Savannah is a stunner, and her laid-back vibe is a great option for a short romantic getaway. Book a suite in the Kehoe House , one of Savannah’s top-rated bed and breakfasts! This gorgeous mansion from 1892 has the perfect location on Columbia Square, in historic Savannah, and they pride themselves on providing the perfect atmosphere for romance.

7. Quiet Time in a Mountain Retreat

There is nothing more relaxing and good for the soul than crisp mountain air! If you and your new partner want to do some rejuvenating, you don’t have to go extreme. Book a cabin retreat in the closest mountain range, and spend a few days in nature. Whether that is the Sierra Nevadas out west, the Ozarks in the Midwest, or the Blue Mountains of the South, you are sure to find the nature is stunning, the atmosphere is relaxing, and hopefully, the company is good too!

Check out this gorgeous lake retreat just outside of Chattanooga, Tennessee!

8. A Cultural Experience in Puerto Rico

If you are looking for an international experience without going too far, or if one of you doesn’t have a passport, then look no further than San Juan, Puerto Rico. As an unincorporated territory of the United States, PR has all the amenities you are used to, but with that Caribbean flair.

Puerto Rico provides everything you need for a few days of romance and adventure! The food is tasty! San Juan is full of historical forts and gorgeous architecture. The beaches are gorgeous. The resorts are very comfortable, and there are a plethora of more budget-friendly condos available. The nearby El-Yunque rainforest provides the perfect day trip for ziplining through the rainforest and splashing in waterfalls. The island is a wonderful combination of romantic sunsets, a vibrant culture, lazy beach days, and tons of adventure activities! Plus, it is a short trip and an easy travel destination in all aspects.

Here are our votes for “ The Top 12 Most Unforgettable Airbnbs in Puerto Rico ”!

9. An Easy Escape to Cozumel

The little island just off Cancun, on Mexico’s Mayan Riviera, is just about the most perfect first trip destination we can think of. It’s easy to get to, provides budget accommodations, and has plenty to keep you busy while intermingling plenty of romantic walks on the beach. Cozumel has long been a destination for those learning to scuba dive. You can easily take a course together if you are both interested in learning. There are dives ranging from the most basic to extremely advanced, and it is one of the most interesting and varied underwater landscapes on this side of the globe.

Cozumel also has wonderful boutique hotels lining its harbor side, and some of the most stunning wild beaches on earth, on the east side of the island. If you want to keep it purely touristy, then stay along the coast. For a more intimate and traditional experience, you will find local bars and restaurants all over the interior of the island. Punta Sur Eco Beach Park is a wonderful day trip where you can visit a historic lighthouse, hang out on gorgeous El Cielo beach, take a crocodile tour through the mangrove forest, and learn all about the local varieties of tequila!

10. Stunning Landscapes in Otherworldly Utah

Utah is one of the most beautiful locations in the United States. Boasting five national parks, interesting cities, otherworldly, red-desert landscapes, and America’s saltiest body of water, Utah is the quintessential getaway for an active couple!

Spend a day exploring the weird and wonderful Salt Lake City. Take a ride over The Great Salt Lake and peruse Antelope Island, where you can see wild bison herds and float in the lake. Then, wander through the thousands of natural rock arches in Arches National Park. Hike the Narrows in Zion National Park, and meander through the delightful hoodoos of Bryce Canyon. If you love outdoor adventure, then you really can’t beat a few days exploring Utah.

For a little help with our planning, check out “Your A to Z Guide to Visiting Zion National Park.”

11. Fall Foliage in Vermont

Vermont is world-famous for its fall foliage, and it’s about that time of year that your social media will be bombarded with quaint Vermont farms doused in yellows, oranges, and reds. A leaf-peeping road trip sounds pretty romantic to us!

Take a tour of a local cheese farm. Visit the covered bridges of Bennington County. Experience a farm-to-table meal Cloudland Farm , in the cute town of Woodstock. Mount Tom, Mount Peg, and Vermont’s tallest peak, Mount Mansfield all offer wonderful hiking trails, especially in the fall! Hike all morning, and then reward yourself with local cheese and craft beer. For a fantastic brewery experience, check out the masters at The Alchemist Brewery in Stowe! They have an informative guided tour, a super fun beer garden, and a hearty beer menu. You could really spend a full day at The Alchemist.

For more fall foliage tour ideas, here’s our list of “The Best Places to Travel in Fall for Incredible Views and Adventures.”

12. Hammock Life in Key West

Back to the beach we go, and this time, we head to the most Southern point of the Continental United States, the glorious Key West. Stroll vibrant Duvall street and hop in and out of its numerous bars and cafes. Enjoy a margarita at the iconic Green Parrot Bar . Waste your days away in a hammock by the crystal clear water, or try your hand at Snuba (a cross between scuba diving and snorkeling). Every afternoon in Key West, you are required to partake in a giant slice of Key Lime Pie and a pile of conch fritters, and your evenings will be filled with bar crawls and drag shows.

To see all the best sites Key West has to offer, join us on an app-guided scavenger hunt! Our “Beauty at the End of America” hunt introduces you to Old City Hall, Duval Street, and Whitehead Street filling you in on all the insider details and hidden gems! You will compete with your partner in trivia and funny photo challenges all along the way, which is sure to produce some keepers for the scrapbook!

You’re ready to roam!

That rounds out our top 12 best vacation destinations for your first couple’s vacation. The world is a big, beautiful place, and there are countless destinations to explore, but remember, for your first trip, keep it simple! Choose something easy where you can both relax, get to know each other in a laid-back environment, and have a good mix of downtime and fun activities.

So, which trip are you going to take? We are dying to know! Drop it in the comments so we can all be jealous.

For more tips on how to travel successfully with your significant other, take a look at “ How to Travel as a Couple ,” our comprehensive guide to surviving a trip together as a couple. Our resident full-time travel couple has packed it with all their best tips and tricks for enjoying stress-free travel with your boo!

Frequently Asked Questions

First vacations together are a big deal, so you want to choose the perfect destination! Puerto Rico, Tulum, and a road trip through Utah are perfect first couple’s vacation ideas!

The success of your first “baecation” hinges on choosing the right location. Choose a first couple’s vacation destination that’s easy to get to and simple to travel in like Key West, Cozumel, or Tulum.

Popular couple’s vacation activities include taking a local class, going on a city scavenger hunt , and doing something active together like ziplining or snorkeling.

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Traveling with anyone new may take some getting used to, but when it’s with someone you’re dating, there’s a different kind of pressure involved — after all, you want the trip to bring you two closer together, not further apart. From how you’ll spend your time to what types of activities you’ll do, there are ways to help avoid potential conflicts you may face. When it comes to traveling with your significant other for the first time , communication and some pre-planning are key.

“Even though the trip may be short-term, you’ll be getting an idea of what it’s like to live with your significant other longer-term ,” Thomas Edwards, Jr., transformational coach , tells Bustle. “And while going away with them will be fun, keep in mind that this is your first time traveling together , which means you’ll see more of each other in ways you haven’t seen before.” He says this can include up-close and personal routines to how each of you define a vacation. “In any case, it’s important to manage expectations,” he says. “Communicate what you’d like from the trip and listen to each other so you two can be on the same page before the trip even starts.”

Below, Edwards and other relationship and travel experts chime in on how you can make your first trip with your partner a success.

Choose A Destination You’re Both Excited About

Anna and Matt Kiefer, a couple who are also the co-founders of Hostelgeeks.com , have plenty of experience traveling both alone and together. They tell Bustle that it’s important to choose a destination you’re both excited about . “Although this seems obvious, communication is essential here to avoid arguments and one person doing all the planning,” they say. “If both people are equally excited for the location, everything will run smoothly with little effort.”

Talk Through The Whole Trip In Advance

Before you book your plane tickets or reserve a rental car, Rachel Wright, licensed marriage and family therapist and co-founder of Wright Wellness Center , tells Bustle to talk through the whole trip and both of your expectations. “So much conflict and anxiety in relationships come from things that are unsaid,” she says. “We can sit quietly hoping that our partner can read our mind — or, we can express what we’re feeling and thinking.” She says that she often hears clients say, “It just didn’t live up to my expectations,” or “I wanted us to just lay low the whole time and my partner had the whole thing planned out minute-by-minute.”

However, if you and your significant other have a pre-trip chat, you can then go through what each day will look like, Wright says. “Talking about things like what types of activities you want to do, if you want to work out, and when you want down time will help when you arrive and are figuring out exactly what to do,” she adds.

Be Prepared For Changes

Julie Spira, founder of Cyber-Dating Expert , tells Bustle that after the excitement of booking your trip, things are bound to go wrong with your well-laid-out plans. “From a delayed flight to arriving to a hotel that’s overbooked, it’s important to talk to your partner in advance on how you’ll handle things, and come up with a Plan B,” she says. “If your flight is canceled , and one of you wants a free travel voucher and the other wants to board the plane, you need to be on the same page.”

Compromise On Decisions

Even if you’re a Type A personality , it’s good to allow your partner to have a say in how you’ll spend time during the trip, too. “The worst travel partner is the one who demands to make every decision,” the Kiefers’ say. “Traveling is about creating memories and having a wonderful time together; otherwise, you can just travel alone .” So, they say it’s best that both people stay involved in the decision-making process and compromise as needed so that the trip is an equal balance of what each of you want to do, even if that means doing some things that are not your first choice or doing things on your own.

Spira agrees and suggests taking turns making plans. “No one wants to go on a relaxing holiday with a control freak,” she says. “If you’ve decided to have breakfast in bed one day, let your partner decide where you’ll have dinner so it feels like a true partnership.” Similarly, she says that if one of you makes most of the reservations and handles the itinerary, ask your partner what they’d like to do, too, so it isn’t all about you and becomes more about “we.”

Participate In Events Where You’ll Meet People

Although you and your significant other will likely focus most of your time on each other and doing things together, it’s also good to do activities where you’ll meet others. “Sometimes, it’s necessary to add new people to the mix when traveling with a partner,” they say. “It’ll add flavor to your trip: You’ll meet people and can receive amazing travel tips for your next journey.”

One way to do this is by joining local tours and activities. “These days, there are many wonderful tours and activities to do in almost every destination,” the Kiefers’ say. They recommend taking turns choosing something fun you can both do — or split up for the day and share stories over dinner.

In addition, the Kiefers’ suggest checking out social events at hostels, whether you stay at one or not. They point out that there are great hostels for couples , and many these days offer private rooms. “So you have your privacy at night, but have the option to mingle and meet others at other times,” the Kiefers’ add.

Learn How To Share

Spira says that because you and your partner will be in close quarters on your first trip, it could be a sign to show you’re compatible — or could end up being your first big bump on the road. “You might have your own bedroom and bathroom at home, but when you’re on the road, you’ll be sharing a bathroom with someone else, and that’s pretty intimate, regardless of your relationship status ,” she says. “The important thing is to give your traveling partner their space, especially if the bathroom door is closed.”

She says that to help prevent conflicts, don’t forget to pick up after yourself. “Put the toothpaste cap back on, hang up the towels, and clean up the bathroom as much as you can so your partner can have their time to get showered and cleaned up before you head out for the day’s adventure,” she says.

Decide On A Budget

Talking about money may not be at the top of your “something to do for fun together” list, but it’s important, especially when you and you partner are deciding what types of activities to do on your trip. “Make an agreement before the trip begins, and plan the itinerary around it,” the Kiefers’ say. “No one wants to have to discuss the awkward topic of money once they’ve started traveling.” If one person cannot afford a certain activity, you may want to do a lower-budget one instead or pay for your partner to join you.

Set Aside Alone Time

Just because you’re going away with your significant other for a set amount of time, whether it’s a weekend or a full week, it doesn’t mean you can’t have alone time . In fact, you should — and not just when your patience is running thin.

“Set aside alone time in advance,” Edwards says. “When spending a lot of time with your partner while on vacation for the first time, it can become a little much — and this is a good thing. But this also means you need some time to be with yourself, reconnect, and recharge.” He says either find a specific activity to go do alone or just relax with a book or by the pool. “Plus, this break will create a longing for one another , which will make the trip even more enjoyable when you two come back together,” he says.

Express Any Concerns You Have In Advance

Wright says that just like it’s important to go over the positive things you want to do on your vacation with your partner , it’s also important to go over things you’re worried about. “If you have a fear of flying, let your partner know before you’re on the way to the airport,” she says. “Or if you’re worried your partner is going to want to lie around all day and you’re going to want to explore, talk about that before the trip.”

Have Daily Check-Ins

In addition to discussing details of the trip in advance, Wright recommends having daily check-ins while on the trip, too. “Pick a time to check in with each other and talk about your favorite parts of the day and if there’s anything you want to do differently the next day,” she says. “My husband and I give our clients a weekly ‘family meeting’ that helps them check in on all areas of their relationship — and I’d recommend this, in a smaller-scale way, as a daily practice while away with your significant other, too.”

While the idea of going away with your partner for the first time can be exciting, it can also be intimidating. But with communication, honesty, and some compromise, there are several ways to make the trip go more smoothly and you’ll come back excited to plan the next one.

Thomas Edwards, Jr., transformational coach

Anna & Matt Kiefer, co-founders of Hostelgeeks.com

Rachel Wright, licensed marriage and family therapist and co-founder of Wright Wellness Center

Julie Spira, founder of Cyber-Dating Exper t

11 Things to Know Before Traveling With Your Partner for the First Time

So, you have been dating this amazing person for a few weeks (or months), and its finally time for that highly-anticipated vacation. Eek! There is every reason to go bonkers about it - you will be traveling with your partner for the first time!

First vacations together can be fun but also daunting. Reduce stress by remembering these 11 things, from choosing a destination to giving each other a little space.

As appealing and romantic as it sounds, you might feel a little daunted. Don't worry, you are not alone - I was in the same position recently when we went for our first trip to Paris .

You will be spending time with your partner around the clock, and will likely find out a lot more about each other - some you will love and others maybe not so much (at least in the beginning). But that doesn't mean you should get paranoid, start being judgmental, or even worse doubt your compatibility.

Here are 11 easy things to keep in mind when traveling with your partner for the first time for a memorable, easy-breezy trip.

1. Your Travel Bucket List Might Be Different

If you are a travel junkie, you probably have a hefty bucket list filled with dreamy places you yearn to explore. Now is the time to revisit the list and discuss it with your partner. Choose a destination that you both will love to discover together .

Pick a destination that is new to both of you so that it is more intriguing and enjoyable, plus you can create new memories together.

2. An Unplanned Trip Can Be a Perfect Recipe for Disaster

Planning together in advance is a crucial step to prevent your holiday from going south. Build an itinerary by choosing locations and attractions that you both would like to discover, at a pace that is comfortable. That said, build in a little "padding" in to allow yourselves to just go with the flow.

It's not necessary for both of you like all the same activities, so do a few that your partner enjoys even if it outside your comfort zone. Flexibility plays an essential role in any healthy relationship.

Avoid overstuffing your schedule with too many activities, as this could make you both tired and cranky. It is supposed to be a romantic getaway with your partner - so throw in a spa session or simply relax on the beach for a day (unless you're in Iceland!).

Planning ahead also helps to understand your partner and their desires before you hit the road. A planned trip is exciting from start to finish and leaves no room for dull moments.

3. Don't Spoil It Over Budget

Apart from planning your itinerary, the budget plays a crucial role too. For you or your partner, this might be a sensitive subject, but it's better to discuss it early on in the planning process.

Be compassionate and understanding if your partner cannot match up to your grand lifestyle, and seek compromise. For example, stay at a 3-star hotel instead of a luxurious resort or pick up the tab at an expensive restaurant. If needed, try to make your partner feel comfortable by dividing the expenses in a way that is agreed ahead of time.

4. Avoid Last-Minute Hiccups

If you're going on an overseas trip, preparations are essential to prevent disappointment, travel stress and unnecessary fuss at the last minute.

• Apply for the necessary visas where applicable, allowing plenty of time for processing.
• Buy comprehensive travel insurance by that suits your requirements. It is always better to be safe than sorry.
• Read more about the new country's background, focusing on culture, customs, safety and currency.

5. Set Your Packing Boundaries

Packing for a holiday can be fun. However, it is imperative to know this does not imply packing your entire wardrobe! Be sensible about what to include.

"He who would travel happily must travel light." - Antoine De St. Exupery

It's a good idea to create explicit packing boundaries if you are not comfortable with sharing. Personal backpacks go a long way in helping that, and allow you to carry your own luggage (most of the time).

6. It's About Creating Memories

Click, click, click! Take plenty of photos and videos but don't go overboard with it . Capture precious moments while experiencing the present to the fullest - photos serve as a return ticket to a juncture otherwise passed. You will both love to reminisce and walk down memory lane later.

7. Strengthen the Connection

Traveling with your partner allows you discover hidden talents you didn't know before. Couples connect a lot better when they are involved in shared activities. And travel takes this to a new level.

If possible, take a break from your smartphones and give each other undivided attention, so that you have more time to connect. It's a wise idea to avoid using smartphones at meal times.

8. Give Your Partner Time and Space

While connecting is important, you might feel that you're running out of things to talk about all the time. Remember that most successful partners can be comfortable in each other's' silence and respect their mutual space. It won't come immediately - give your partner time to get comfortable around you (and vice versa).

Your first vacation might be the first time you will spend such a long duration together. Thus, there can be times when you both run into disagreements or arguments. Bottling up your emotions will not help - talk it out and try to get back on the same page. Don't ruin your trip because of a tiny road bump. An unfortunate instance at the time can sometimes make for a hilarious story later!

Depending on your personality type, a little alone time can help you feel balanced and recharge. So, don't be afraid to discuss this as needed.

9. It's Better to Be Real Than Perfect

It's natural to try to put your best foot forward. But you are better just being yourself sooner than later. Remember, this is a vacation, you get a free pass to be carefree and do crazy things while traveling together.

It also helps to open up to your partner and be as comfortable as you can in your skin. Being goofy makes it all the more fun. Do something unusual and fun with your partner besides the usual romantic date. Remember, adults are just grown-up kids.

10. Good Food Can Set a Happy Mood

Delicious food can play a huge role in enjoying a trip to the fullest. An empty stomach is a quick route to becoming cranky and irrational. Think of a few restaurants along your sightseeing route, so you don't end up hunting for a restaurant only when you are hungry. Google Maps and Happy Cow are essential travel apps for this situation.

Always pack snacks for a long road (or rail) trip. Surprise your palette by trying a few local dishes and drinks that you won't find at home.

11. Buy Souvenirs to Cherish Your First Trip Together

A souvenir is a small, inexpensive item picked up as a reminder of a special place. It's a way to bring home a piece of your far-roaming adventures.

These collectibles can be in the form of stamps, postcards, magnets, figurines, coasters, t-shirts, you name it! A well-thought-out souvenir allows you to cherish the memories of a personal tale that will bring a smile to your face when you look at it.

From comical memories when you both did something silly, to romantic kisses under starry nights in exotic locations, and laughing at the small arguments or differing opinions you both had during the trip; traveling with your partner is a fantastic idea.

It does wonders for relationships by teaching us to communicate better, set realistic expectations, overcome challenges, accepting differences in opinions, and most importantly, be more sympathetic to each other.

There's just one more thing you can do to help with your trip… share this article with your partner and make sure you're both on the same page. Happy travels!

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How to Travel With Someone You Just Started Dating

By Luke Winkie

One month after my girlfriend and I officially christened our relationship, deep in the throes of the honeymoon stage, we found ourselves contemplating something possibly romantic, possibly unhinged—depending who you asked. I was doing some reporting in Poland, and planned on taking an extra week off to travel south through Croatia and Greece. Though we had yet to spend more than 36 straight hours together, we weren't too keen on spending on all that time apart, either, and she had some vacation days left on her docket. A trip across the Atlantic, before we had even met each other's roommates—before we had even said "I love you"—felt like the first act of the most disastrous Judd Apatow movie ever made. But neither of us could resist such a fun, bad idea, and we purchased the airfare on her living room couch.

It's been nearly a year since that vacation. We are still together. Everyone we told about the impromptu trip was skeptical (there were many strained smiles and versions of “oh… wow!”), but those eight days proved that we could co-exist without self-destructing or flaming out. Rather than cracking the relatively new foundation, this whirlwind trip solidified our feelings—though, there were a few pitfalls that could’ve wreaked havoc, so below are a few tips on how to avoid them.

Travel during off-season.

A truth of any relationship that's only a few months old: You guys aren't great communicators yet. That's not your fault; nobody’s assembled the full run-down of sensitivities, language tics, and off-limit topics after only a handful of weekends hanging out together at fourth date-caliber bars. You don't even have their birthday memorized yet! The mind-meld takes time! Luckily, we were traveling to Dubrovnik in the dead of winter, which meant that cruise ships weren't emptying out into the city every hour. We had the chilly city to ourselves, which relieved a lot of the navigation faux pas and crowd anxieties that can quickly zap the life out of any trip.

At the time, though, we didn't have even a handful of the communication tools we do now to handle high-stress, chaotic travel. There's absolutely a chance we could've found ourselves mired in an apocalyptic argument after, I don’t know, a particularly gnarly $89 Uber ride for starters. So save your summer in Rome until after you've had a few more reps, when you're both more accustomed to how you respond to pressure.

Consider booking two different flights back.

This sounds a little morbid, but we booked separate flights home at the end of our trip. To be honest, the reasons we did that had more to do with schedule demands than any apocalyptic visions for how the trip might have gone, but... I'd be lying if I said I didn't take a bit of solace in knowing that if things went real bad overseas, at the very least we weren't going to have to spend nine hours sitting next to each other in Basic Economy. That would've given us way too much time to stew over the various reasons that We Were Not Right For Each Other. Instead, we each had an ejector seat handy. This shouldn't be taken as a toxic prenup agreement, either. You're allowed to harbor a few doubts when you're only ankles-deep in a relationship; that makes you a (somewhat) responsible new couple!

Pack a guidebook.

You're best off letting some other authority—like a guidebook, or an audio guide, or even a tour group—take the wheel, so you two can just enjoy each other. Walking around with Fodors Paris 2020 on your waist isn't the biggest fit in the world, but trust me, transforming into 50-something sundowners as soon as the plane lands is a seamless way to get comfortable. Embrace your inner lameness. It'll allow you to envision what traveling with the person will be like a decade from now.

Elect a navigator.

Here's a fact: 90 percent of all travel fights begin when both members of a relationship open their Google Maps at the exact same time. Early on, you're better off conceding authority to one phone for all directional matters. Nobody wants to be the couple in a screaming argument over which alleyway to take. ( Oh wait, my satellite just re-calibrated. You're right, sorry honey .) Consider it training for the next phase of your partnership, when you're going to have to trust your boyfriend or girlfriend with things that matter much more than where the nearest ATM is.

When they ask you to take a photo, take a lot of photos.

It became clear early on that one of my girlfriend's priorities was to make our vacation as well-documented as possible, and I immediately understood why. I hadn't yet met her family, or most of her friends, which means that she was leaving the country with someone who was still basically a mystery to the most important people in her life. A romantic trip to southeastern Europe booked a few weeks in advance? Strong catfish energy.

So, a good way to assuage any suspicions back home is by posting lots and lots of social media content. At basically every photo op, I reached deep within myself and transformed into an expert Instagram boyfriend, offering her dozens of options to prove to the world that she was A) having a lot of fun on the beautiful Adriatic Coast, and B) still alive.

Feel free to get a little blissful.

You're far from home throwing caution to the wind with a new partner. This sort of stunt requires a good amount of Garden State -style yuppie idealism, and while nobody should spoil themselves with humblebrags about how #adventurous they are, I do think everyone on a potentially irresponsible vacation is allowed some leeway to marvel at how their impulsiveness is, for once, a force for good in their lives. Some of the best memories I had from the trip were our dizzy, "I can't believe we actually did this!" asides, which will sustain you through, say, an extended layover in Zagreb.

Let the "I love you" happen naturally.

Look, you don't fly across the country with someone you've only known for a few months without a few instincts left undeclared. We made it to Europe without officially establishing "I love you" as the sort of thing we were allowed to say to each other, and even in the most galvanizing periods of the trip, I could feel the albatross hanging over us. The unfortunate thing about albatrosses is that they start to make you plot out your life like a romantic comedy. You may, for instance, find yourself in agony at an Athens taverna, trying to decide if this is the moment you're supposed to permanently change the language of your relationship. What I learned is that you can never anticipate those quantum leaps ahead of time. You're better off just focusing on the souvlaki.

The nice thing about traveling with someone new is that it slowly chips away your internal censors to the point where something as scary as "I love you" arrives entirely naturally. You just need to trust the process and wait for your brain to get out of the way. For us, it was walking her to a taxi on the morning she left. It slipped out, almost by accident, and therefore by fate. That's how it's supposed to feel, right?

Couples who slay metaphorical dragons together stay together.

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How to travel with your significant other (without breaking up)

I met my current boyfriend on an Intrepid tour in 2013, and we’ve been travelling the world together ever since. But I’ll let you in on a little secret: it’s not as romantic as you may think. 

I’m the type of traveller who likes getting to the airport hours early because there’s no better feeling than having time to eat, pee, buy a magazine, drink a beer, charge your phone, then pee again. My boyfriend, on the other hand, takes his sweet time with a super laid-back attitude thinking that the plane won’t leave without him. And yet, we travel together all the time. 

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Travelling isn’t easy for every couple  – regardless of whether you’re with a boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife, friend, sibling or work colleague . The word ‘travel’ originates from the French word ‘travail’, which means work. In this case, you need to work together to have an awesome holiday. Most recently, my boyfriend and I conquered a five-month backpacking trip through South America, which really tested our relationship. During the first few weeks, we struggled with communication, clashing travel styles, and being out of our comfort zone. But then we worked through those struggles, which helped our relationship positively grow.

Here are five things I learned about travelling with a significant oth er over a long period of time.

1. Be transparent about your budget

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Before you even step on the plane, you and your partner/pal should have ‘the talk’. The talk about the budget. It’s not easy to discuss money as personal finance tends to be a tip-toe topic. But it shouldn’t be. 

When it comes to travelling with your partner, lay it all on the table and create a plan around spending. Discuss the budget for accommodation, food, transportation, and activities. This will help you both be on the same page when it comes to choosing a hostel versus a hotel, or taking a cab everywhere versus public transport versus walking. 

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2. Compromise when it comes to activities or clashing travel styles

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As I said, I’m a nervous traveller. I get anxious about missing flights or changing plans, while my boyfriend is not a planner or a worrywart. So, naturally, our travel styles clash. I learned that it’s all about compromise. 

In order to help each other through this initial struggle, we had to put ourselves in each other’s shoes. For us, that meant me laying off the planning and letting him take the reins sometimes. That way there’s a little bit of balance. Compromise helped us meet in the middle in order to have the best travel experience.

Doing a group tour is a great option for couples because everything is planned, so there’s less stress about finding accommodation, running for the last train, or finding a (good) cheap restaurant that won’t give you food poisoning. So that saves a lot of possible arguments and frustrations! And when it comes to activities, you’ll have a group to hang back with if you’re not into bungee jumping in Queenstown while your partner already has the harness on. 

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3. Talk it out – but listen, too 

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Communication is key to any relationship, with or without travel. But in this case, I learned that listening is especially important. We can talk all we want, but if no one’s listening, what’s the point? When you’re on the road, you should be able to talk about feelings, plans, likes, and dislikes. 

Express your emotions to your partner rather than bottling things up. You don’t want to be on holiday with a salty attitude because your partner’s stuff is sprawled out over the hotel room. All you have to do is tell them it bothers you and provide a solution so that you two can keep moving forward. Easy, right? 

RELATED: I TOOK MY SPOUSE ON A GROUP TOUR; HERE’S WHAT IT WAS REALLY LIKE

4. Schedule some alone time 

Schedule in some solo time. Photo by Stephen Parry.

Let’s be real: it’s tough being around someone 24/7. Alone time is important because it will help you both take a breather. When I found myself getting annoyed at my partner over something insignificant, I knew it was time to have a few hours to myself. Sometimes that meant taking a walk or doing an activity on my own.

Embarking on a group tour is a smart option for couples or friends travelling together for the first time (or even after multiple travels together). When you’re on a tour, it takes the heat off from spending all your time with one person. Remember, you don’t have to be attached at the hip. Time apart is healthy. What’s that cheesy saying? Distance makes the heart grow fonder… there’s truth to that.

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5. Be a team

Better together! Photo by Marina Nazario.

What do game-winning teams have in common? Communication, honesty, strategies, goals, trust, and respect, to name a few. This should be the same with you and your partner. You two are a team ready to explore the world! You look out for each other, trust each other, and respect each other. That’s the formula for a positive holiday and growing relationship.

After years of navigating through these lessons of travelling with my partner, I’ve found that I’m a better person toward him. I’m more patient, I’m a better listener, and I’m more appreciative. (Don’t be mistaken, I’m still a neurotic traveller.) 

The travel experiences that we’ve had together, such as hiking in Argentina or having our belongings stolen in Thailand, helps us tackle obstacles in our daily life. Plus, travelling together is just more fun.

Travelling with your partner or bestie can be so much easier when you’re part of a group tour. Check out our range of small group adventures for 18 to 35s now .  

Feature photo by Marina Nazario. 

Feeling inspired?

Marina Nazario

Marina is a freelance travel writer from America with a one-way ticket around the world. When she's not writing about where to have an epic adventure, she's searching for flights and wondering how to get upgraded to business class. Follow her travels on Twitter @marinajane19 or on her blog www.marinasmilestones.com.

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The Dos & Don’ts Of Traveling Together (Without Ruining Everything)

Your first vacation in a new relationship is a big deal. It means that this person likes you enough that they’re willing to throw down some serious cash (and use up their precious, limited vacation time) in order to spend time with you . And this is almost certainly because they’re (at least moderately) into you and your charming personality and general hotness and almost definitely not because this has been one long con to get you onto a cruise ship and then murder you far out to sea so they can steal that $807 in your bank account. Almost, definitely, probably not.

But with the excitement of getting to lounge on the beach t ogether, comes some pressure. What if it’s terrible? What if you find out that they cut their toenails on airplanes or it comes up in casual conversation that they think John Mulaney is “just okay.” Or maybe they voted for the opposite political candidate as you or didn’t vote at all because “what’s the point.” Maybe every time they order a drink on vacation they sing the entire, “Do you like Pina Coladas and getting caught in the rain?” song.

Worse still, what if you’re the one doing terrible, unforgivable things to them? What if you’re the toenail clipping person?

Have no fear though, friends, passionate admirers, and bitter ex-lovers — we’re here to tell you the dos and don’ts of your first couple’s trip. Because with the right set up, planning, and basic human decency your trip can be as smooth as possible. Maybe even fun? Follow these simple guidelines and you will be well on your way to standing in an infinity pool with your girlfriend or boyfriend staring at the rainforest for as long as both shall live. Or at least until you get bored.

DO keep both of your budgets in mind when planning.

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The Situation:

You’re very, very wealthy. Instead of pebbles in your driveway, you use diamonds. Instead of cat litter, you use diamonds. Instead of toothpaste you just grind diamonds onto your teeth, every night, until they’ve been grated away to dust, painfully, one. by. one. But no big deal because you can replace them with DIAMONDS.

Naturally, you’ll just pick a hotel at random from a list a friend gave you. You’re not going to give that friend’s name but it rhymes with Bark Buckerberg (coincidentally that’s also the name of a dog you have an ongoing feud with. He knows what he did).

Why you should be looking up sales or try a hotel app:

Unless you’re paying for everything as a gift, your first trip’s opulence level should be based on the financial situation of the partner who has less money. Because — spoiler alert: You’ll both have more fun if one of you isn’t worrying that this trip is going to keep them from paying rent on time or drain the money they were saving for their cat’s diabetes medication.

“No, no, it’s fine. I love 90 dollar steaks and besides, Fluffy has lived a very long and fulfilling life, I guess (strangled sob). Yep. Let’s get in the hot tub. That sounds like a good place to cry. I mean kiss.”

Look, at the beginning of any relationship, you’re trying really hard to go with the flow and be easy-going. It means that it’s much harder for your bf/gf to say no to that nice hotel you swear has the softest pillows in the world or say, “are you f-ing kidding me. You know my cat has diabetes.” when you suggest a $300 pre-fixe menu. So do your partner a favor and pick a spot that will make everyone feel comfortable and not stressed.

(Although, if you’re both rich af, do whatever you want! And also, I don’t know, adopt me? Adopting adult women is a thing you can do right? Be my new parents, please? I’m nice!)

DON’T make a first trip that’s over two weeks long.

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You look into bae’s eyes and see your whole life of adventure spread out in front of you as endlessly as the stars in the sky. What’re six months backpacking around South America compared to forever in each other’s arms? Tis a blip in the history of time. You know what they say: “When you meet the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, you want the rest of your life to start in a hostel in Columbia arguing about which one of you was responsible for leaving your passports on a bus.”

Why you should make it more of a quick “Tuesday Siesta” than a “100 Years of (Non) Solitude” situation:

Sure, long bouts of travel might be incredible with this person. Maybe. But if it doesn’t work out? Ooooo boy. You’re now stuck with a nightmare companion who only wants to watch Mad Men on his laptop all day in bed and hates “weird food.” And if you’re in it for the long haul, you’ll start wishing every single train you take to a new country would just lose control and go off the rails but without Liam Neeson there to keep you all from going to your fiery death.

For the first trip, just keep it on the shorter end. Dip your toe into the waters to see if you’re going to be in the company of a sweet, sweet manatee who just wants a hug or a literal shark who will bite off that toe and still be hungry for more of your flesh.

DO pick somewhere neither of you know well.

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What’s that you say? My new lover has never been to Paris? Never? Why I’ve never heard of such a thing. Not even in college? Well, that won’t do. I’ve been to Paris hundreds of times. Thousands. Millions. He has to go to Paris! We have to go to Paris! EVERYBODY NEEDS TO SEE PARIS.

Why you should close your eyes and stop a globe with your finger:

You might have the impulse to take your boyfriend/girlfriend/partner somewhere you know well in which you can wildly impress them by showing them the world, shining shimmering splendid. And that worldliness will be great on a future trip, I promise. But for the first trip, it’s best to make new memories and be on equal footing.

You don’t know each other that well. So even though you think you know the best restaurant that they’ll “totally love” maybe they won’t. And they’re worried now about hurting your feelings. Or you have to feel stupid that you picked Crabby Chris’s Crab Emporium when it’s not as good as you remember, and also, put your new lover into anaphylactic shock.

Going to a place neither of you has been (or at least knows well) will allow you to explore together, create new memories, and both feel empowered to make suggestions because you’ll both feel ownership over your first trip together. (And for the love of God, do not plan your first vacation in a spot where you and your ex had a romantic time once.)

DON’T leave without figuring out the money stuff first.

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Isn’t it kind of awkward to talk about money and not very sexy? You’ll just feel it out when you get there. You’re pretty good at home taking turns with treating or splitting the check! Never look before you leap, your grandmother used to say. Boy, do you miss her since her shocking fall to her death. Who saw that coming?

Why you should learn how to make a quick spreadsheet:

In a situation where you’re dropping a lot of dough and you’re eating EVERY meal together, the financial stuff isn’t just something you forget about easily. It gets brought to the surface over and over again. And you really don’t want to be constantly calculating who paid for what and harboring secret resentments every time the bill arrives. Before your trip, know each other’s budgets. Discuss what you’re comfortable splurging on or not. Then figure out if you want to pool cash and use it for meals and activities or put it all on one credit card and split it later.

Be sure to schedule in some room to be generous, too. Sure, you paid for the surf session and she paid for a slightly cheaper dinner. But if part of you is truly fuming that you ended up paying 50 bucks more on a vacation, there might be a bigger problem in your relationship. I’m no therapist (I’m just an omniscient advice God who is always right) but, most likely, finances are already something you’re frustrated about in everyday life. So you should try to work that out before you head to Tahiti and lose it when she doesn’t reach for her credit card to pay for half of the vanilla ice cream you two plan to lick off of one another.

DO use your own suitcase.

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You’re packing light, you’ll share a suitcase! Doesn’t that make you seem easygoing? You could wear literally one outfit the entire time or no outfit at all. You could fashion a suit from the hotel toilet paper. YOU’RE SO LOW MAINTENANCE!!

And besides, isn’t it sexy to think about your undergarments brushing up against each other?

Why you should keep some personal space:

Question: Does the idea of your undergarments all mixed in together sound as sexy when they’re dirty?

I’m all for getting comfortable, but it’s your first trip. If it’s adventurous and you want to pack light, better to both bring your own backpacks than share one rolling bag. You probably have different packing techniques and different ideas of what is essential and it’s a fight you don’t need to have before you even leave. It’s way easier to have your own little bit of personal space than dealing with the bag politics of who gets more space for shoes or all of those ceramic elephants filled with heroin that a nice man asked you to smuggle across the border.

DON’T be afraid to ask strangers to take your photo.

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It would be rude to ask someone else to take your picture even though you just did a once in a lifetime climb to the top of Mt. Everest. What if they say no? Or worse, look slightly annoyed. What if they sigh, and say, sure. But in a way that makes it clear they don’t want to. Nah, better not to risk it. Better to just snap a couple of selfies. No biggie. You climb Everest all the time.

Why you should make some strangers to be your Instagram boyfriend:

Selfies can be fine, but they’re generally not something you want to frame and hang in your living room. You just went on this awesome trip — you should get a couple of nice pictures of the two of you together, in front of pretty backdrops.

Rules of polite society apply on this — ask someone lingering. Don’t ask someone clearly hurrying somewhere, or wearing headphones, or reading. The best way to get someone to take your pic painlessly is to look for a couple taking single pictures of each other or one person being left out of a group shot and ask them if they’d like you to take it so they can be in it. 99.9 percent of the time, they really appreciate it. And will be happy to return the favor quickly. Make the effort, you’ll be glad to look back at it when you’re old and grey and married to totally different people (statistically speaking).

DO poop in the hotel room.

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You live in separate places! Normally, you just have a fun night. Then you make an excuse when you need to go to the bathroom and go back home for a nice leisurely poop with no one you have romantic feelings for outside the door listening to the horrible, horrible sounds coming out of your delicate body.

Why you should consider going for your “number 2” option on this one:

If we had our way, our significant others would never know that we poop. They’d never hear it or smell it or think of it. You’d pay to have the guys from Eternal Sunshine come over and wipe their memory of what transpired in the bathroom from their minds every night while they slept.

I’m sorry though, you have to break the seal on this one. Everybody poops and, on a trip, it will become uncomfortable to either hold it or run to the lobby bathroom over and over. It’s a lot of pressure, I’ve been there. A trip is the perfect time to finally admit you’re human.

That said, the most discreet way of doing so is taking a shower, starting the water to minimize sound, do your business and then jump in. You’ll get a little more time for any odors to evaporate and the smell of products you showered with will help too. Oh, and don’t go with the door open. Not ever. Not even after 50 years of marriage. It’s not okay. Some things we don’t need to share.

DON’T plan on having stimulating conversation the entire time.

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God, you love talking to your partner. They’re so smart and funny and some nights, after a date, you just stay up for hours, talking. You usually end up accidentally closing restaurants down because you just lose track of the time. This trip is going to be a dream come true, you have all the time in the world!

Why you should have some Dan Savage queued up for the road:

If you’ve mostly only seen each other for a few dates a week, you might be expecting sparkling convo all the time. But traveling can be exhausting. And that’s okay. Seriously, it does not mean you are doomed as a couple because you realize here and there that you’ve run out of things to say. Be prepared with a mystery podcast you can start together or save up a few episodes of that comedy thing you both love. You will almost inevitably hit a point where you need to just not talk to anyone. Having some options that allow you to be together, experiencing something chill (without needing to come up with 20 questions about their high school mascot) is sometimes just what you need in order to recharge.

DO take a little time apart.

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Wait. You’re on a trip together. You’re supposed to spend every second together, right? You guys were told first couple’s trip was the one in which a mad scientist was supposed to “human centipede” you, right? RIGHT????

Why you should keep the key to your room’s secret escape hatch:

Absence makes the heart grow fonder. It’s okay if one of you wants to read a book by the pool one afternoon and the other wants to go on a hike or hit up a museum. Sometimes you need a few minutes to just be weird, weird you. So run down to get a coffee in the morning and linger a little on the walk back. Be chill about just wanting different things a couple of times, and enjoy the peace that sometimes comes from not having the person you love most in the world reading you 700 menus of restaurants even though you told them you were fine with them picking.

Give yourself a break, you know? Otherwise, too much togetherness can lead to being a little stir-crazy and fighting.

DON’T plan so many activities that you’re too tired for vacation sex.

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This is your first vacation together! You should do everything there is to offer! Scuba diving at 6am, rock climbing at 2pm, an amazing cocktail bar before that restaurant everyone talks about, a late night ghost tour at 10! AND THEN YOU’LL START AGAIN.

Fun! This is fun! They call this FUN.

Why you should make good use of your hotel room:

Vacation sex is objectively the best kind of sex. It just is. You don’t have to be up for work, you don’t have to be quiet for any neighbors (I mean you’re never going to see these people again and besides they are also having hotel sex), all of your stuff is in the same place, you’re more relaxed with lower inhibitions, and finally, if there are two beds in the room, guess who has a separate “sex bed” from the ‘sleeping bed’. YOU GUYS DO. Dream.

There’s certainly nothing wrong with not having sex on your vacation if you don’t want to, but, usually on your first romantic getaway, that’s something you’re kind of into. So… don’t plan things to death. Leave lots of room in your schedule for “naps” and “getting ready for dinner” and “having sex all day.” Give yourself the option for when the mood strikes.

DO pick an activity that takes you both out of your comfort zones.

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Oh, you’re not going to do ANYTHING weird that will embarrass you in front of your new love. I mean, what if you look like a fool? You’ll stick to pointing out all of the kinds of birds you know on gently inclined walks, thank you very much.

Why you should totally leap out of a plane:

Doing things that scare you a little or get your heart rate up bonds you together. Adventure makes you feel connected and makes you more sexually attracted to your partner. Seriously, get that dose of heart-pumping adrenaline going through your body while looking into each other’s eyes and you’re likely to feel a higher sense of arousal later .

Plus, doing things that you aren’t good at or trying things for the first time leads to fun. You’ll laugh, you’ll mess up, you’ll learn something and that’s good on a first trip. It’s a better story to talk about the time you took surfing lessons, fell off your board, and were stung by a passing sting ray, than that time you both played a perfectly adequate round of mini-golf. So take one for the team. There might even be great “you were so brave” vacation sex after.

DON’T feel bad about re-examining your relationship if your partner is a monster to travel with.

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Your awesome boyfriend who volunteers at charity programs for kids, and makes you extravagant dinners just because you had a hard day at work, and is so good at karaoke — has transformed into a literal demon from Hell who yells at waiters and hates the smell of the ocean for some reason, and whose eyes turn red every time you put your own music on and his head spins around and he vomits green bile into your face.

Why you should maybe hop back on Tinder for a bit:

When something is stressful like your partner’s bag gets lost, do they scream at everyone including you and are totally miserable to be around? Do they then not bounce back and spend the next 24 hours complaining about the pants in that bag and how they wanted to wear them tonight. Look: Of course travel stuff can be really stressful, we’ve all had our brief meltdowns but if your partner is terrible to be around through those stresses, consistently, I have news for you, they may not be great just… in life . Because you know what else is stressful: getting married, losing a job, having kids, your computer breaking, getting sick, getting a parking ticket, balancing your bank account, spending time with in-laws, learning a movie you wanted to see is sold out, finding out that the person who you thought loved you watched The Good Place without you…

Stressful shit will always happen. And the thing about traveling together is that for the first time you are spending every second with someone. So, if they’ve been The Picture Of Dorian Grey-ing you, and beneath the facade, they’re a super ugly human being, it’s a sign that this might not be “the one.” Look, I’m not saying you should immediately break up, but I’d give it a solid consider.

On a related note: Make sure you are not the monster that someone wants to break up with after the vacation. Go with the flow, compromise, find the fun in things, listen to what they want, don’t poop with the door open, be nice to service people even if every flight was canceled and they tell you it’s so that all of the pilots at LAX can eat a burrito at the same time for National “Pilots Eat A Burrito Day…”

“That cannot possibly be a real day,” you say. “Please stop lying to my fucking face. I just want to get out of this godforsaken — (Deep breath) I mean… when is the next flight you can get us on? I really appreciate you helping us here. We’re so excited to be on this trip.”

Our best advice, be the traveling partner you wish to be with. And you’ll find the right match. Maybe even on this very trip.

Dear Here: How Do I Make Sure the First Trip With My Partner is a Success?

Welcome to  Dear Here , an advice column from  Here Magazine  where we tap into the hearts and minds of travelers, working with the experts to find solutions to travel issues you can’t always solve with a search engine. 

I’m in the middle of talking to my relatively new boyfriend about planning our first trip together, and it’s making me really anxious. People say that a trip can make or break a relationship—that travel is like a microcosm for what the rest of your life will be like. There’s a lot of pressure riding on the success!

I worry that we might not want to do the same things.

We’re already facing a bit of a conundrum: I suggested for our first trip that we go to a cabin upstate and just be alone. Something chill, easy. But my biggest fear is that I might get bored with him. Boring is scary. You don’t want the rest of your life to be boring!

On the other hand, he’s really enthusiastic about doing something more adventurous, something neither of us has done before that we can experience together for the first time. But I worry that we might not want to do the same things. What if we don’t find the same things interesting? What if we realize we enjoy spending our downtime really differently? The rest of our constructed life is usually there to help us make decisions, but on vacation, it’ll just  be us against the world, wherever that is.

To be honest, I think both trip options come with their benefits and their challenges. I guess my biggest fear is that so much of our relationship is around other people, our friends, family, etc—in either scenario, what if we just don’t hold up alone?

What if we just don’t hold up alone?

Off The Heartbeat-en Track

We hear you—traveling with your partner for the first time can feel really, really stressful, but the good news is that it seems like you’re asking great questions. You just need some guidance on how to approach these questions IRL.

For some expert help, we reached out to Laura Heck, a licensed couples therapist with a private practice in Salt Lake City, Utah. She’s a member of the international  Gottman Institute , which provides practical, research-based tools to strengthen relationships, and helped co-create their Seven Principles Leader Training . Below, she shares some specific, tactical advice for taking your relationship abroad.

First, don’t sweat it.

“Especially with newer relationships, it feels like there’s a lot riding on these trips. [It feels like] a make-it-or-break-it moment, but it doesn’t necessarily have to be like that,” says Heck. Yes, things might not go as planned or turn out as well as expected, but it doesn’t necessarily have to mean anything. In fact, it’s possible to imagine a scenario where a couple goes on their first trip, and it goes really poorly, but they wind up getting past it. Years later, they’re laughing about how terrible that first vacation was, and what seemed like such a disaster at the time can make for really great shared comedy down the line.

I think some of the best stories that we have are the stories where things didn’t always go as well.

“I think some of the best stories that we have are the stories where things didn’t always go as well, especially in those first months together,” agrees Heck. She also contends that experiencing a trip together for the first time is important in evolving the relationship. “Novelty is great for relationships. So for couples that are doing everything for the very first time, it’s exciting and it’s new and it’s not always going to be great, but you’re learning about each other along the way.”

Heck suggests that while you just have to embrace all that comes with traveling with a partner, there are some strategies for maximizing your travel time together.

Explore each other’s intentions beforehand.

“It takes a while to work into a space where you can anticipate what your partner is going to do,” says Heck, so in these early stages, it’s especially important for both of you to have explicit conversations about how you want to spend your time.

I want couples to imagine what the stories are that they’re going to come home and want tell everybody about.

“Anytime couples are getting ready to go on a trip, I always have them ask one question. No matter what kind of traveler they are—whether they’re detailed planners or more go-with-the-flow—I want for couples to imagine that they are driving home or flying home from whatever adventure they’ve gone on, and I want them to imagine what the stories are that they’re going to come home and want tell everybody about. What is it that they’re gonna be so amped and so excited about, they can’t wait to bust their cell phone out and show people those pictures?”

This question, Heck says, will help you clearly identify where your expectations lie in a way that gives each person a tangible framework to express their desires. But often, simply having that conversation isn’t quite enough.

Deeply understand each other’s expectations.

What if you do wind up having wildly different desires for the trip?

“I would try and understand what’s underneath it all,” says Heck. “What are you truly seeking as a result of these activities?” In other words, if you want to lay low and snuggle, and he wants to go zip-lining, it’s important for each of you to get curious about what it is about those things that’s appealing to each of you.

This is how you can approach perhaps the #1 on-going conundrum in any relationship: compromise.

For example, you might think that getting cozy and staying indoors will spark intimacy between the two of you, and that’s great. But he might be thinking that doing exciting new things together will also bring you closer—so both of these activities can potentially accomplish a shared goal. Once he understands your needs, your partner might discover that he doesn’t actually need to be outside and doing all those crazy things. He may realize that he just wants to get closer to you, and vice versa. This is how you can approach perhaps the #1 ongoing project in any relationship: compromise.

Talk about past travel experiences.

You have to have your first time traveling to sort of understand how you do things as a couple.

“You have to have your first time traveling to sort of understand how you do things as a couple,” says Heck, but you can go into it with a deeper understanding of who your partner is as a traveler—and who you are as a traveler—by talking about past travel experiences. Is your partner the type that always stops at every sight to take a picture? Do you throw your diet out the window on vacation? Is your partner historically a detailed planner or more go-with-the-flow? Was their family always late to the airport and did they find that super stressful?

Heck believes that it’s important to ask what was special about those previous experiences—and what they would change if they could. This can illuminate even more about what you and your partner can expect from a travel experience and the history that shaped those expectations. Travel can bring about our best and worst selves, but this way, you won’t be as thrown off guard by any new behaviors between the two of you.

Have a post-mortem.

What if you go on a trip with your partner and the worst comes to worst? Nothing goes right, you’re bored, you fight, or you feel like your needs and expectations weren’t met. You already know it doesn’t have to mean the end of the relationship if you don’t want it to—so what can you do to salvage things?

It all starts with having a conversation.

“On the way home, start with asking yourself and your partner: what were the highs and lows of this trip?” says Heck.

Never assume the worst intentions from your partner.

As with any conflict, never assume the worst intentions from your partner. “You might be surprised as to what your partner has to say about what went well or what didn’t go well.”

Heck says that it’s important to focus on the highs first, “because we do tend to have a revisionist history, where we start to look for what was negative. If you have your shit-colored glasses on, it’s going to be really hard for you to see the positive.”

Go into the conversation with the goal that you want to walk away having learned something about how you both might have done things differently if you could. “Think about how we can make this better in the future,” says Heck. “What did we learn about each other? What did we learn about ourselves? Did we share our best self during this adventure or could we have done better?”

Accept that it’s part of a learning process.

There’s so much you can learn about a person when you spend all that consecutive time together, just the two of you. Heck believes that this is important work for a relationship, good or bad:

Couples do need to sort of strip away all of the other things in life. 

“If you’re always getting together and it’s a big group of people and you feel like your conversations are driven by other people rather than talking alone, travel will help give you a pretty clear picture as to how your dynamic is, and I think that’s important. I think that couples do need to strip away all of the other things in life and just spend some time connecting with one another.”

So whether or not it works out with your partner after you travel together, you’ll certainly get an idea one way or the other if your dynamic is a long-term fit. You won’t know until you try—and what a blessing that can be, no matter which way it shakes.

Happy Valentine’s Day, travelers! We hope you found this helpful. To submit your own questions to “Dear Here,” shoot an email to [email protected] with the subject line “DEAR HERE.”

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Best First Vacations for Couples

Oh, to be in love and travel with your partner – it’s an exciting time! From choosing a destination to boarding the flight together, everything about travelling as a couple is exciting. Or at least it should be. To make sure your first vacation as a couple goes off without a hitch, there are some things you should consider before takeoff.

Where can you go that you’ll both enjoy? Do you want to relax or explore? What kinds of things should you do when you get there? Fear not… There are tons of questions to think about, but luckily for you, some destinations are tailor-made for couples, especially if it’s your first time travelling together! So skip the stress and opt for one of these epic first-time vacation destinations for couples:

Perfect first-time holiday destinations for couples

1. california.

Surfing, wine tasting, exploring the Hollywood Hills – California is a no brainer for first time couple travel. The variety of sites, activities, and accommodations are endless, from spending one night in a beach cabin to another in a San Fran skyrise. There are beaches, national parks, hiking trails, vineyards, and even Disneyland to keep the pair of you occupied. Whether your road tripping or staying in one area, California has all the working parts to be the best vacation ever.

10 Best California Couples Tours & Vacations

For couples who tend to lean towards the adventurous side, Iceland was made for you. From hot springs to volcanoes, the forever changing and seemingly otherworldly landscapes of Iceland will keep you captivated your entire trip. Spend the morning bathing in the steamy Blue Lagoon and your night cuddling under the Northern Lights – no matter what itinerary you go for, Iceland is one place the two of you may never want to leave.

10 Best Iceland Couples Tours & Vacations

Italy is home to some of the world’s best food, most beautiful coastlines, and romantic drives you’ll ever come across. Book your flights and be prepared to indulge in every Italian cliche, from red wine to gondola rides to gelato under the shadow of ancient ruins. While Paris is typically considered the city of romance, a tour through Italy will quickly change your mind, making it the perfect destination for lovebirds planning their first vacation together.

10 Best Italy Couples Tours & Vacations

4. Costa Rica

For any couples with an outdoor bucket list that’s ten miles long, chances are you’ll be able to cross off at least ten things after a vacation to Costa Rica. There’s whitewater rafting, fishing, snorkelling, zip lining, and just about every other adventure activity you could imagine. And when you’re tired, treat yourself to a colourful drink and lounge on some of the most beautiful beaches in the world. For couples that love to work hard and play hard, Costa Rica is the destination with both of your names stamped on it.

10 Best Costa Rica Couples Tours & Vacations

5. European river cruises

One of the best first-time trips you and your partner could ever go on is a river cruise through Europe. If you’re thinking, “But aren’t river cruises boring?”, we’re delighted to say you’ve been misinformed . These days, river cruises offer something for everyone, from onboard morning yoga to guided (or unguided) tours through Europe’s most treasured cities. It’s hassle-free, romantic, and a great way to see multiple cities during one trip. The food is great, the sites are breathtaking, and you’ll have one of the easiest planning experiences because it’s all taken care of for you!

10 Best River Cruises for Couples in Europe

6. Scotland

Scotland is one destination that always seems to blow couples away with its history, culture, and untouched wilderness. Slip on your hiking shoes and explore century-old castles or grab the camera and capture the beauty of the Isle of Skye – whatever you choose, you won’t be disappointed. The local pubs have the most delicious beer and the music will lift even the most rhythmically challenged off their feet. So, for any couples looking for a beautifully wild adventure, a vacation in Scotland is your best bet.

10 Best Scotland Couples Tours & Vacations

Bali is the ultimate destination for any couples who want to relax on some of the dreamiest beaches during their first vacation together. This is one destination that promises relaxation, white sand beaches and days spent swimming in water so clear it almost doesn’t seem real. Your Instagram will be filled with beautiful beach shots, so pack your most stylish bathing suit and prepare for a week of some seriously romantic R&R.

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Tips for a successful first vacation

Planning your first trip with your significant other may seem like a bit of a challenge, but it’s exciting nonetheless. You’ll make memories and share experiences together you can’t create any other way, so don’t be nervous. Follow these tips to ensure everything goes according to plan:

1. Consider your lifestyle and interests

There’s no point travelling somewhere if once you arrive there’s little that will interest you both as a couple. So if hiking isn’t your thing but you both love food, consider a trip that focuses on experiencing epic cuisine and leaves out the strenuous activity. Travel according to what interests you both.

2. Discuss the budget beforehand

Save yourself any arguments or confusion and discuss the budget of the trip before making any bookings. Far too often couples sign up for a vacation and then realize it’s going to go way over budget. And don’t be discouraged if your budget is small, there are tons of places to go and experiences to be had that won’t break the bank.

3. Buy travel insurance

This seems like a no brainer, but travelling without any insurance can create some serious problems should one of you need medical attention, something is stolen, or you need to cancel the trip. Having insurance ensures everything is covered if something does go wrong.

4. Watch out for tiredness and hangriness

Being tired or hungry can totally change someone’s personality, so keep an eye on whether or not your partner is suffering from either of these ailments. Getting enough sleep and being well fed ensures everyone is happy and enjoys themselves.

5. Learn to laugh

You’re on vacation! Make light of each other’s annoying habits and be supportive when plans inevitably change. There’s nothing worse than one partner feeling like the other is unhappy, so when in doubt: stay positive and keep a light-hearted perspective on things.

Travelling as a couple is everything: rewarding, challenging, exciting, aggravating and romantic. Exploring somewhere new together is an invaluable way of strengthening the bond you share. So don’t be afraid to take the leap – start planning your first vacation together and don’t look back!

Jesse Warner

Jesse is a blogger and content creator who loves travel, the outdoors, and her dog, Molly. When she isn't planning her next trip, she can be found watching Netflix documentaries, enjoying time by the water, or eating soft-serve ice cream. Follow her on Instagram , Facebook , or check out her blog .

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Traveling with Your Partner for the First Time: 5 Things to Consider

By: Author Betsy Wuebker

Traveling with your partner can mean excellent company, but also put your relationship to the test. Read on for advantages and pitfalls to avoid.

If traveling is a big part of your life, you will probably want to go on an adventure with your partner sooner or later.

Traveling as a couple not only means excellent company and someone to share the new experiences with, but it can also bring the two of you even closer together than before.

However, traveling together with your significant other can also put your relationship to the test if you are not prepared. Unlike with traveling alone or with friends, you probably won’t be able to simply go your own way if there are any disagreements on what to do or where to go!

As an avid traveler, I have many stories to share about traveling with a partner (as well as reasons why I often choose to travel solo). Traveling with your significant other has a whole different set of advantages and drawbacks from traveling alone.

Here are five things to consider before traveling with your partner, so you enjoy your travels and each other’s company.

1. Physical fitness

If you can hike many miles without getting tired, but your partner’s longest walking route is from home to the office and vice versa, going on a mountain hiking trip may be a serious challenge.

During your travels, you should compromise on the activities you both decide to do. If you prefer going on a whole day hike, but your partner wants to have a leisurely walk and a few beers in the town, that’s totally fine.

Separate interests are no obstacle in a healthy relationship. There is nothing wrong with taking a few hours apart from each other to enjoy different pursuits. If you would prefer to stay together, why not compromise with a walk somewhere in the middle?

Make sure your partner assesses their physical readiness, and don’t push them to do things they are not capable of. After years of traveling and building some (literal and metaphorical!) travel muscle, I’d sign up pretty much for anything (apart from rock climbing). However, this was not always the case.

I still have vivid memories of my first trip abroad, when not only I was unprepared to hike twelve miles a day up a mountain, but I didn’t even have the right clothes or shoes! When I was whining in pain from blistered feet and getting a rash from tight jeans, my travel buddy was ascending like a champ, ignoring all my pleas to slow down or turn back. 

You don’t want to put a strain on your relationship and make your partner suffer, so you may want to start exercising together beforehand. Try going on long walks, breaking in those hiking boots, and assessing if you have a similar fitness level before booking your travels.

2. Pace of travels

Some people can happily spend a whole two-week holiday just lying on the beach sipping Pina Coladas, while others would much rather be exploring the town market, scaling a mountain, or going scuba diving.

I used to be an unstoppable traveler who would go on every tour, hike, and boat trip available before crashing out dead tired in the evening. However, during years of travels, I discovered that having slower days with a book and Margarita on the beach can be as enjoyable.

My current partner taught me to slow down my travel pace, and I started to really enjoy the balance! A day of relaxation, or even just a bit of a lie-in in the morning before setting off, can re-energize you and give you time to process the incredible things you have seen and done so far.

If you can’t put a break on your travel pace, it’s OK to leave your partner in the hammock with a book for a day while you are touring the islands and snorkeling. If your partner is the adrenaline junkie and you just want to chill out and catch some rays, allowing them to head out on their own for a while will keep you both happy and prevent resentment.

If he loves you deeply , he will respect when your wishes are different from his. Not to mention, you will both get some alone time (too much time around anyone can start to get grating!), and you can share your adventures with each other over dinner! 

3. Sense of adventure

Prefer peaceful hikes in a rainforest, but your partner would rather be skydiving or white water rafting? Sometimes having a more adventurous partner can inspire you to push your own limits and expose you to new exciting experiences. I would have never done that scary one-kilometer zipline ride without a bit (actually, quite a lot) of encouragement from my partner!

Food is another area where being on the same page is essential. If you like trying new local cuisines, but your partner won’t eat anything but McDonald’s, this could become an issue. I wouldn’t blame someone who would refuse to eat deep-fried bugs in Thailand, but refusing to try any mouth-watering street food or local dishes that are worth the trip alone would be a crime in my eyes!

Once I went on a trip with a boyfriend who shared my taste in food back home. It didn’t even occur to me to ask him about his views on eating local food when traveling. When we came to Bali, and I started drooling over Chicken Satay and other delicious food from the market stalls, he was horror-struck and wouldn’t touch anything. He was terrified to catch some bug or bacteria when eating street food and refused to try anything that sounded unfamiliar to him.

While I tried to keep my spirits up and enjoy all the food on my own, he’d sip on his bottle of water while watching me eat, then munch on a packet of chips or a bowl of fried rice later. Needless to say, our relationship did not last long after we returned from the trip. A sense of adventure is one of the most important things for me when traveling and in daily life.

Getting lost in the tiny streets of Rome without a map nor GPS? Yes, please! Finding a little speakeasy way past midnight and popping in for a cocktail? Hell yeah! Going on a road trip with no plan or booked accommodation? Why not! While this may sound like an exciting adventure to you, those unplanned and unpredictable situations may throw some people out of balance and cause severe stress.

If you haven’t discussed it with your partner, I would strongly recommend modeling these situations in a conversation before the trip so you get a feel of where their limit of adventurousness is. If the two of you aren’t always on the same page, a little encouragement can help people have experiences they may not have considered. However, don’t be too pushy—you should always respect your partner’s concerns.

4. Level of comfort

I love a bit of luxury when I can afford it. However, it is not always the case that I can afford to stay in five-star hotels, so I adapt well to any environment I find myself in. Throughout my travels, I have slept in a reed-covered beach hut, a mountain cabin wearing all of my clothes, a tent in the middle of the forest, and even in a cornfield by the highway while hitchhiking in Europe (oh, those early days of traveling!).

A few years ago, I met a guy that I seriously liked: he was smart, adventurous, a foodie, and an avid traveler. We went on a couple of dates and spent hours talking about a million different topics. Before too long, he offered to go on a weekend trip to Paris with me. I almost squealed with joy, and I could already imagine us walking along those streets looking for the best macarons in the city!

We started making plans, and it all sounded terrific until the guy announced that he refuses to stay in less than five-star hotels. My level of excitement dropped instantly from 100 to 0. Back then, I wasn’t in a position to splurge, and he knew it. I told him that I’ll probably have to postpone the trip until I had enough money to afford it. A few days later, he sent me a selfie in front of Ladurée in Champs-Élysées, holding a raspberry macaron in his hand. You can probably guess that we never took a trip together.

While this is a slightly extreme example, you will find that different people have different levels of comfort with accommodation, food, and other aspects of traveling. Most people aren’t quite as picky as this guy was, but if you love sleeping in basic, dirt-cheap hostels or even in a tent in the middle of the woods, you may find that your partner needs a little more comfort! As with other disagreements, coming to a compromise and finding a middle ground that is both comfortable and affordable is usually the best bet.

5.Travel budget

Whether each of you is paying for your own travel expenses or you have shared funds, agreeing on the trip’s budget is one of the most important aspects of planning. 

If you both pay your own individual expenses, it is still usually best to have a similar budget to each other. Having similar funds will help you to align your trip goals, accommodation, and entertainment options. It will also help you to have realistic expectations. Imagine if your partner had an idea of dining in Michelin restaurants during the trip, and all you could afford is fast food meals? 

Not to mention, it wouldn’t be fun if one of you ran out of cash during the trip and had to rely on the other to buy them dinners or pay for the accommodation.

Ideally, you should know your partner well enough to have an idea of their preferences of accommodation, dining, entertainment and what their budget is likely to be.

If one partner makes more money than the other and has a larger budget, they should be aware and understanding of the fact that their significant other will not have as many funds. In this case, either agreeing on a more affordable budget or treating your less-wealthy partner to meals and accommodation as a gift without expectation of being paid back is the best way to go! While many couples can owe each other money without it leading to arguments or resentment, it is usually best to avoid this scenario if possible.

Shall you decide to opt for a shared budget, agreeing on it before the trip will help avoid arguing or blaming each other for excessive spending.

If you and your partner plan your travels well and have similar expectations, you may find traveling together an amazing and romantic experience!

To avoid the possible pitfalls, you should always make sure that you and your partner are on the same page about everything—from budget to location to activities. A successful joint traveling expedition is about two things: preparation before the trip and compromise during the trip. You can adapt and adjust to each other, but the most important thing is to have realistic expectations for the journey together. The more you discuss before the trip, the more enjoyable it will probably be.

A top tip if you feel daunted by planning a big adventure: go on shorter and less strenuous trips first to test the waters and see your travel compatibility! A weekend city or camping break, or a few days together in a different country is best experienced before diving into a month-long expedition across South-East Asia!

If your relationship is going well, but you realize you are not a perfect travel match, there is no need to get upset or break up! You can always travel solo to have much needed alone time or invite your best friend instead. Even the healthiest and most respectful relationship needs some distance at times.

Meet Emma Jones , Our Guest Author

Emma enjoys observing and exploring the world around her and writing about her discoveries. Human relationships is her favorite topic, and she likes to analyze them from a psychological perspective. She is a contributing author at Thought Catalog, GoDates , and several other media outlets.

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How to Survive Your First Trip Together

posted on February 26, 2015 | by Amanda Holstein

Whether you’re in a new relationship or a long-standing one, there comes a time for your first trip together. Now, don’t get nervous. It doesn’t need to be as big a deal as everyone around you is probably making it out to be. Yes, you’ll be spending 24/7 together and may see some new sides of each other you haven’t experienced before. But all in all, it’s a great way to get to know each better and discover how compatible you really are. To make sure you survive your journey, I’m sharing some of my secrets with you below. Thank me later.

Plan & Book It Together

It can be stressful to choose the hotel, the flights, and the activities for any trip. Instead of putting the blame on one person if the hotel sucks, I suggest planning and booking the trip together. If it’s a bust, at least it’s on both of you. If you’re in a new relationship, this is also a great way to get excited about the trip together. With big events like this early in the relationship, you can sometimes worry whether the other person really wants to go or not. So if you plan it together, you can both show each other you’re serious about it. If you’ve been with your partner for a while, planning your trip together will allow you both to put in the same amount of effort, which can definitely help avoid any bickering down the road :).

Speak Up If You Need Your Alone Time

Spending 24/7 with the same person for any period of time is not easy, no matter who you are. Even on vacation with each other, you need to make sure you speak up when you need your alone time. Make sure you listen to your needs and voice them. If you feel yourself getting anxious or irritated, it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with your relationship necessarily, it may just mean you need some time for yourself. It will make sure you don’t get sick of each other and allow the trip to have some balance.

When You Have to Go Number Two…

Sorry to go there, but it’s necessary. Every girl (and guy) wonders, “Where the hell am I gonna poop?”. If you’re not quite at that comfortable stage yet with your partner, I’ve got some clever ways you can get away with this one secretly. First, use the bathroom at public places – the airport, restaurants, by the pool, etc. You won’t be spending much time in your hotel room anyways, so take the opportunity when you’re out. If you need to go in the hotel room, turn on the shower and go before you jump in. By the time you get out, no one will know. You’re welcome.

Alright, was that awkward enough for ya? Let’s move on…

You Don’t Have to Do Everything Together

Being two different people, you and your partner may not want to do all the same things at all the same times. In fact, it would be a pretty rare thing if you did. So don’t feel pressure that you have to take a surf lesson if he really wants to and you’re terrified of the water. Let him know he should totally go and enjoy it, that you want him to, and that it’s just not your thing. That way you both can make the most of the trip and not feel like either of you are holding each other back.

 Have you traveled with a boyfriend or girlfriend before? What are some of your tips?

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11 Comments

Great advice! I am going on a trip with my boyfriend next week, perfect timing! I gotta say the poo had to be addressed. :)

I always have liked your blog and insta….especially since you started in San Francisco (where I am!) and moved to New York (where I have a huge soft spot for!). You’ve always seemed down to earth and relatable and this article proves it. It literally made me laugh out loud because it was so honest! I love the blog community but there is a fine line with coming across too put together and being relatable…you have to balance the two and you’ve got it down! Articles like these are so much more enjoyable to read! (I mean the number two thing is classic). It’s like listening to a friend rather than just someone whose style you want to emulate! I definitely want to have this sort of honesty in my own blog. Thanks for being so refreshing!

Amanda Says

Thank you for your comment, Jenna! I definitely aim to be as open and honest as I can so it feels like we’re having a real conversation. I’m so glad that came across to you. Feel free to email me anytime and thank so much for reading!

Of course! Thank you and will do!

Alexis Says

Such great advice!! My new-ish (4 months) boyfriend and I are actually planning our first vacation now, so this could not have come at a better time! And I totally agree with #1…one of the best parts so far has been planning & finding fun things to do together!! Fingers crossed it goes perfectly!!

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I must say, the poo part is quite funny! Luckily, the only times I’ve travelled with a partner is after we’ve hit that comfortable period in our relationship. Honestly, it’s not as bad as it seems. I’m pretty open with my boyfriend. I’ll even open the door and have a full blown convo with him will handling the business. It just shows we as women are human. We have our ugly moments. We get morning breath. We can stink up the bathroom. We fart. We have boogers. We snore. It’s all normal. I used to be that girl who would wake up a half hour before the alarm and brush my teeth, wash my face, gloss my lips, tousle my hair, spritz a little perfume

Loved this article!!! I must say, the poo part is quite funny! Luckily, the only times I’ve travelled with a partner is after we’ve hit that comfortable period in our relationship. Honestly, it’s not as bad as it seems. I’m pretty open with my boyfriend. I’ll even open the door and have a full blown convo with him while handling the business. It just shows we as women are human. We have our ugly moments. We get morning breath. We can stink up the bathroom. We fart. We have boogers. We snore. It’s all normal. I used to be that girl who would wake up a half hour before the alarm and brush my teeth, wash my face, gloss my lips, tousle my hair, spritz a little perfume and hop back in the bed like #IWokeUpLikeDis! But after realizing how much sleep I was losing and how much he really didn’t care about my looks at 5:30am….I now just roll over in the bed until it’s time to get up.

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First Trip With Boyfriend: What To Pack

Published: December 6, 2023

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Introduction

Planning your first trip with your boyfriend can be an exciting and nerve-wracking experience. As you gear up for your adventure together, it’s important to pack wisely to ensure a smooth and enjoyable journey. From clothing choices to travel documents and entertainment, every detail counts. This comprehensive guide will provide you with essential tips on what to pack for your first trip with your boyfriend.

When it comes to packing, it’s crucial to strike a balance between practicality and style. You want to be prepared for various weather conditions and activities while still looking your best. By following these packing suggestions, you’ll be ready for any adventure that comes your way.

Before diving into the specifics, it’s important to consider the destination and the activities you have planned. Are you heading to a beach resort? Going on a city break? Embarking on a hiking expedition? Tailor your packing list accordingly to ensure you have the necessary items for your specific trip.

Now, let’s take a closer look at each category to help you pack efficiently and make the most out of your first trip with your boyfriend.

When it comes to choosing clothing for your trip, versatility is key. Aim to pack items that can be mixed and matched to create multiple outfits. Consider the weather at your destination and pack accordingly:

• For warm weather destinations, pack lightweight and breathable clothing such as shorts, sundresses, tank tops, and swimwear.
• If you’re heading to a colder climate, ensure you have layers to stay cozy. Pack sweaters, jackets, thermals, and a hat and gloves for added warmth.
• Regardless of the destination, it’s always a good idea to pack a few pairs of comfortable walking shoes, sandals, and socks.

Don’t forget to pack sleepwear, such as pajamas or comfy loungewear, so you can relax and unwind after a long day of exploration.

Additionally, consider the activities you have planned during your trip. If you’re planning on doing adventurous activities like hiking or biking, pack appropriate attire such as activewear and sturdy hiking boots. If you have any formal events or dinners planned, include a dressier outfit for those occasions.

Lastly, remember to pack underwear, socks, and accessories such as hats, sunglasses, and scarves to complete your outfits and protect yourself from the elements. Roll or fold your clothing to optimize space in your suitcase and prevent wrinkles.

By packing versatile and weather-appropriate clothing, you’ll be prepared for any situation and ensure that you and your boyfriend are dressed to impress throughout your trip.

When it comes to toiletries, it’s important to pack the essentials while also considering the size and weight of your items. Here are some key toiletries to include in your packing list:

• Toothbrush, toothpaste, and dental floss for your daily oral hygiene routine.
• Shampoo, conditioner, and body wash in travel-sized containers or solid bars to save space.
• Deodorant to keep you feeling fresh throughout your trip.
• Sunscreen to protect your skin from harmful UV rays.
• Moisturizer and lip balm to keep your skin hydrated.
• Makeup essentials such as foundation, mascara, and lipstick.
• A razor and shaving cream if needed.
• Any prescription medications or necessary health supplies.

Remember to pack these items in a leak-proof toiletry bag to prevent any spills and keep your suitcase organized. It’s also helpful to pack a small travel towel and a bag of travel-sized tissues or wet wipes for convenience.

Keep in mind that many hotels provide basic toiletries such as shampoo, conditioner, and soap, so check with your accommodation in advance to see what items you can leave at home to save space.

Lastly, if you’re traveling to a destination with different electrical outlets, don’t forget to pack a universal adapter for your electronic devices and chargers.

By packing the essential toiletries, you’ll ensure that you can maintain your hygiene routine and feel fresh throughout your trip with your boyfriend.

Travel Documents

Travel documents are essential for a smooth journey and ensuring a stress-free trip. Here are the important travel documents you need to pack:

• Passport: If you’re traveling internationally, make sure to bring your passport. Check its expiration date to ensure it’s valid throughout your trip.
• Driver’s license or ID card: Even if you’re not planning on driving, it’s always a good idea to have a valid ID with you.
• Visas: Depending on your destination, you may need a visa to enter the country. Research the visa requirements in advance and apply if necessary.
• Travel insurance: It’s highly recommended to have travel insurance to protect yourself and your belongings in case of any unforeseen events or emergencies.
• Flight tickets: Whether in print or digital format, make sure to have your flight tickets easily accessible.
• Hotel reservations: Keep a copy of your hotel reservations or booking confirmations handy.
• Itinerary and contact information: Write down your travel itinerary, including flight details, hotel addresses, and any important phone numbers or contacts.
• Health and vaccination records: If you’re traveling to certain countries, you may need to provide proof of vaccination. Check the requirements and bring any necessary documentation.

It’s wise to make multiple copies of all your important documents and keep them in different locations, such as your suitcase, a travel wallet, or stored electronically in a cloud service. This way, you’ll have backup copies in case any documents get lost or stolen.

Before your departure, double-check that you have all the necessary travel documents and ensure that they are up-to-date and easily accessible throughout your trip.

Electronics and Entertainment

In the digital age, electronics play a significant role in our travel experiences. Here are some essential electronics and entertainment items to pack for your trip:

• Mobile phone: Your smartphone is a multi-purpose device that allows you to stay connected, use maps, access travel apps, and capture precious memories.
• Chargers and adapters: Don’t forget to pack the chargers and adapters for all your electronic devices to ensure they stay powered throughout your trip.
• Portable power bank: A portable power bank can come in handy when you’re on the go and need to charge your devices without access to an electrical outlet.
• Headphones: Whether you’re listening to music on the plane or enjoying a podcast during your downtime, a good pair of headphones will enhance your entertainment experience.
• E-reader or tablet: If you enjoy reading, consider bringing an e-reader or a tablet to have a variety of books, magazines, and entertainment at your fingertips.
• Camera: Preserve your memories by packing a camera to capture all the special moments during your trip. Don’t forget the necessary memory cards and spare batteries.
• Travel adapters: If you’re traveling to a country with different electrical outlets, make sure to pack the appropriate travel adapters to charge your devices.
• Entertainment options: Pack some entertainment options such as books, magazines, or travel games to keep yourself entertained during long flights or downtime.

Remember to pack these items in a secure bag to protect them during your journey. It’s also a good idea to back up your electronic devices before traveling to ensure the safety of your data.

However, it’s important to strike a balance between technology and being present in the moment. Make sure to disconnect from your devices when you’re spending quality time with your boyfriend and fully immerse yourself in the travel experience.

Medications

Packing necessary medications is crucial to ensure your health and well-being during your trip. Here are some important considerations when it comes to packing medications:

• Prescription medications: If you have any prescribed medications, make sure to pack an ample supply to last the duration of your trip. It’s also a good idea to bring a copy of your prescription or a note from your doctor.
• Over-the-counter medications: Include commonly used over-the-counter medications such as pain relievers, antacids, allergy medicine, and any other medications you might need.
• Medical supplies: If you have any specific medical conditions or require certain medical supplies, such as glucose meters or insulin for diabetes, make sure to pack them as well.
• First aid kit: It’s always a good idea to have a small first aid kit with items such as band-aids, antiseptic cream, and adhesive tape in case of minor injuries or emergencies.

When packing medications, it’s important to follow these guidelines:

• Keep medications in their original packaging with clear labels to avoid any confusion.
• Store medications in a cool and dry place to maintain their effectiveness.
• Carry medications in your carry-on bag rather than in your checked luggage to have easy access when needed.
• If you’re traveling internationally, research the rules and regulations regarding bringing medications into the country you’re visiting to avoid any issues at customs.

It’s also a good idea to have a list of emergency contact numbers, including your doctor’s contact information, in case you need medical assistance while traveling.

By taking the necessary precautions and packing your medications properly, you’ll have peace of mind knowing that you’re prepared for any health-related situation that may arise during your trip.

Accessories

Accessories can add style, functionality, and convenience to your travel experience. Here are some essential accessories to consider packing for your trip:

• Hats: Protect yourself from the sun with a wide-brimmed hat or a baseball cap.
• Sunglasses: Shield your eyes from the sun’s rays with a stylish pair of sunglasses.
• Scarves: Pack a lightweight scarf that can be used as a fashion accessory or to keep you warm on cooler days.
• Jewelry: Bring a few versatile pieces of jewelry to enhance your outfits. Just make sure to pack them safely to avoid any damage or loss.
• Belts: Pack a couple of belts that can help you adjust the fit of your clothes and add a touch of style to your outfits.
• Travel wallet: Keep your important travel documents, IDs, credit cards, and cash organized and secure in a travel wallet or passport holder.
• Travel locks: Safeguard your belongings by packing travel locks to secure your suitcase or backpack.
• Reusable water bottle: Stay hydrated during your trip by bringing a reusable water bottle. It’s both eco-friendly and convenient.
• Day bag or backpack: A small day bag or backpack can be useful for carrying your essentials while exploring during the day.
• Travel pillow and eye mask: For long flights or train rides, a travel pillow and eye mask can help you get some rest and arrive at your destination feeling refreshed.

When it comes to accessories, it’s important to pack items that are practical, versatile, and align with your personal style. Choose accessories that can be easily incorporated into multiple outfits to save space in your luggage.

Remember to pack these accessories in a way that keeps them protected and easily accessible during your trip. This way, you can effortlessly elevate your travel outfits and make the most out of your first trip with your boyfriend.

Miscellaneous Items

In addition to the essentials, there are several miscellaneous items that can enhance your travel experience and make your trip more comfortable. Consider packing the following items:

• Travel-sized laundry detergent: If you’re planning a long trip or don’t have access to laundry facilities, packing travel-sized laundry detergent can help you do some quick handwashing to refresh your clothes.
• Reusable shopping bag: A foldable reusable shopping bag can come in handy for carrying groceries, souvenirs, or any unexpected purchases during your trip.
• Travel-sized sewing kit: A compact sewing kit can be a lifesaver if any clothing items need quick repairs during your trip.
• Earplugs and sleep mask: If you’re a light sleeper or have trouble sleeping in unfamiliar environments, packing earplugs and a sleep mask can help you get a good night’s rest.
• Travel guidebook or maps: Bring a travel guidebook or maps of your destination to help you navigate and explore the local attractions.
• Travel umbrella: Be prepared for unexpected showers by packing a compact travel umbrella.
• Snacks: Pack some snacks to satisfy your hunger during transit or in case you have limited food options available.
• Travel-sized umbrella: Stay protected from the sun with a travel-sized umbrella that can easily fit in your bag.
• Ziplock bags: Pack a few ziplock bags of various sizes to store toiletries, keep electronics dry, or store any wet or dirty items.
• Travel journal: Carry a travel journal to jot down your experiences, thoughts, and memories during your trip. It’s a great way to document your adventure.

These miscellaneous items can be easily overlooked but can greatly contribute to your comfort and convenience during your trip. Tailor this list to your specific needs and preferences to ensure a smooth and enjoyable travel experience.

As you prepare for your first trip with your boyfriend, packing the right items is essential to ensure a smooth and enjoyable journey. By considering the clothing, toiletries, travel documents, electronics, medications, accessories, and miscellaneous items outlined in this comprehensive guide, you’ll be well-prepared for your adventure together.

Remember to pack versatile clothing that suits the weather conditions and activities planned for your destination. Don’t forget the essential toiletries and medications to maintain your hygiene and health during the trip. Keep all important travel documents organized and easily accessible, including passports, visas, flight tickets, and hotel reservations.

Electronics and entertainment items such as smartphones, chargers, headphones, and cameras will enhance your travel experience, but make sure to find a balance between technology and being present in the moment. Additionally, accessories like hats, sunglasses, and scarves can add style and functionality to your outfits, and miscellaneous items like travel-sized laundry detergent, sewing kits, and reusable shopping bags can greatly come in handy during your trip.

By packing judiciously and considering the specific needs and activities of your trip, you’ll be able to focus on creating beautiful memories with your boyfriend. Enjoy your first trip together and make the most out of this exciting adventure!

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7 Things That Happen When You Go On Vacation With Your Partner for the First Time

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Going on a trip with your partner for the first time is like unpacking a suitcase stuffed with crazy secrets. You may think you know them, but you don't know anything until you've seen how they react to a seven-hour flight delay and major jetlag. Hey, it's a learning experience. Check out what's guaranteed to happen when you embark on this awkward—but awesome—journey:

You learn about each other's irrational fears and weird quirks. Like that you absolutely cannot sit on the top tier of a bus. Or that he doesn't like to fall asleep before the plane's meal cart comes by for fear of not eating. Um…okay…we can work with that. Wait, he also travels with two toothbrushes—just in case? Just in case of what?!

You help each other get dressed. With no girlfriends around to help you pick out your outfits, you look to him for advice. You find yourself modeling your options for him as if he were one of your friends—or a mirror—and he's surprisingly helpful. Likewise, you notice that he actually takes 15 minutes to pick a belt, at which point you finally decide to step in and make the executive decision.

There's a bit of a bathroom situation. Listen, you are just going to have to accept the fact that you are officially going into uncharted territory here. Suddenly this super-modern hotel with the glass bathroom door doesn't seem so luxe, huh? There will be sounds and there will be smells; try to get over it. Everybody poops.

You become masters of the comfortable silence. An eight-hour bus ride will do that to you. You've covered your childhood, his childhood, extended family members, that weird scar on his forearm, and now you've officially run out of things to talk about. But on the upside, this is a pretty big relationship hurdle, so give yourself a pat on the back for being able to just enjoy each other's quiet presence for a while. You guys are nailing it.

You'll get a little bit sick of each other. This is just inevitable. You are spending every second of every day together! Eventually it may get to the point where you don't even argue when you can't get seats next to each other on your return leg. No, no, it's fine, don't worry about us! It’s totally normal. In fact, if you didn't get sick of each other, we'd be worried.

You bond…excessively. The best part of traveling with your significant other for the first time is that you learn so much about each other and you connect in ways you didn't know you could. You are experiencing something wonderful together that is just yours and will always belong to the two of you. So forget all the awkward stuff, and enjoy!

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10 Things That Happen When You Take Your First Trip as a Couple

By Zahra Barnes

Taking your first trip with your dude is undoubtedly one of the biggest relationship milestones you can experience. Your wanderlust is guaranteed to skyrocket as the warm weather winds down, so it's the perfect time to strike out together as a team and figure out if you've got what it takes to last. Here are 10 things that you're bound to deal with as you broaden your horizons together.

• One of you will get sick. Let's jump right in and discuss one of the biggest disasters that can happen while traveling: illness, especially of the food-borne variety. Combine new cuisines with jetlag and you'll very likely get a stomach flu wreaking havoc on one (or both!) of your systems. Sharing a toilet isn't exactly the picture of romance, but taking care of each other can be very sweet.

Delays are going to happen. Maybe you have to go back to the hotel because you forgot your passport, or perhaps your train got bumped for another few hours and you're stuck in a grim station without any Wi-Fi. If you can find a way to keep a cool head—or laugh at your "we're going to miss our flight!!!" meltdown—you're golden.

Your iPhones will take a backseat. When you're jolted out of your work-work-work mind-set, you get to see each other with new, technology-free eyes. It's refreshing to not be so connected all the time.

You will feel drunk in love. There's nothing better than that moment when you lock eyes and feel overcome with excitement that you're on this specific trip with this specific guy. If you don't feel even an inkling of that the entire trip, just enjoy a lot of pina coladas and maybe reevaluate when you get home.

You'll get really, really lost. Don't panic! Try to see it as an opportunity to make some thrilling discoveries on the way to your eventual destination.

__His little habits will drive you nuts.__I promise, his tendency to tap out beats on the steering wheel isn't worthy of doing something that will qualify you for an episode of Snapped. Breathe through it.

__Your weird quirks will do the same.__Take any general vacation crankiness as part for the course. As soon as you see another amazing landmark, you'll probably trade your annoyance for awe.

You will reinforce your belief that vacation sex trumps all. Something about going away together will send your libidos through the roof! Make the most of it while it lasts—try as you might, you can't just pack up that vibe in your suitcase and bring it home (wait, who do I need to talk to so this can actually be a possibility?).

The adventures you take will bring you closer. Not to sound like a contestant on The Bachelor , but trying scary new things together will only make you fall deeper in love. Research even shows taking risks as a couple releases hormones that boost your relationship.

You'll figure out your strengths and weaknesses. Does one of you get a little panicky while the other maintains a cool head? Are you the star navigator while he knows the language better and can communicate with the locals? Discovering how you complement each other is one of the best parts of the whole experience.

Did you take any fun trips with your guy this summer? If not, where do you wish you had gone? __

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Ah, the twitterpation of new romance and the promise of a budding new love – it’s exciting, intoxicating, and sometimes a little scary. 

The first phase of any new potential romantic relationship is replete with jitters, hopes, and tender moments.  If you’ve recently met someone, you can probably relate.  

Starting a new relationship poses a roller coaster of emotions and possibilities. One way to explore the potential of a new relationship and learn more about each other is to take a trip together.

There are a lot of pros and cons attached to taking that first maiden voyage with someone you’ve just recently met. That’s why we’re sharing some tips for first-time travel with a new romantic partner.

Tips for First Time Travel With a New Romantic Partner

Why taking a trip with a new love interest could be a good idea.

There is nothing more mind-expanding than travel. It’s the anticipation of new adventure, and experiencing incredible cultures only travel can provide that makes it an effective venue for testing a new romantic relationship. 

Travel has a way of shifting us all out of our comfort zones. Because of this, it’s a great way to see the “real stuff” in travel partners.

Travel can also coax out different aspects of personalities in a travel companion that you might not see in a traditional courtship situation.

Taking a first-time trip with a new romantic partner is a big decision. Because travel can be so polarizing, a trip with a fresh love interest could make or break the bond completely. If you think about it, you and your heartthrob are thrust into unfamiliar situations. 

This is the perfect opportunity to see how you two work together to find solutions, and observe how you both react in foreign scenarios.

Ultimately, taking a trip allows you to get to know each other more intensely. So intense, in fact, you may be able to determine if this person is an unsuitable match, or your perfect paramour after the trip is done.

Preparing for Your First-Time Trip Together

If you’re taking the travel leap with someone you’ve only dated for a short time – that in itself could be considered an impulsive move.  While being spontaneous is a wonderful quality, it never hurts to prepare before you go.  

One big prep step to take is notifying friends and family about your trip.  Let’s get real. How well do you really know this person with whom you are traveling?

If the relationship is in its early stages – odds are you don’t know them that well at all.  That’s why it’s crucial to let a few trusted friends or family members know what you’re doing, where you’re going, and when the trip will take place.

Take a cautionary step further by giving your friends and family the contact information for the hotel, flight information, and any details you can provide them so they know where you are.

We’re not suggesting your new love interest might be a threat to you, but it never hurts to be safe rather than sorry.

You might also consider getting a female at home STD test , and have your partner do the same. We realize this might be an indelicate topic for a new couple to broach. However, if either you or your new honey has a sexually transmitted disease, then that is a first-time trip that has “disaster” written all over it. 

Here again, this is about covering bases so you both can enjoy your new adventure without worrying about harmful consequences in the future.

How Long Should Your First-Time Trip Be?

The answer here is completely up to you.  However, the ideal length of time (and probably the most convenient for you both) is starting out by taking a weekend trip.  Of course, this limits where you might travel. 

Unless you own a private jet, a weekend trip will probably be a getaway to someplace relatively close.  This could work in your favor, because if it’s painfully clear you two aren’t “ meant to be ” – you don’t have as far to travel back home if you want to ditch the travel date early. 

On the other hand, if you both are undeniably crazy about each other, you could plan a longer trip. 

Where Should You Go?

The location of a first-time trip with a new romantic partner could easily be decided by following the combined passions shared by you and your newfound love-mate. 

For instance, if you both share a deep affection for the tropics, then a trip to the Bahamas might be your ticket.  Alternatively, if you both are fans of historic places then that shared interest should narrate your trip plans. 

Of course, how long your trip is, and your budget may also factor in your plans. Where you go is all about assessing both of your interests, finances, and viability.

Who Should Pay?

The old conventional wisdom that the breadwinner of a partnership should pay for everything is out the window. Today, gender and position don’t factor in as heavily as it used to in the old days.  

However, if your new romantic partner brought up the idea, and insists on paying for the whole thing, should you go along with it? It depends upon how it makes you feel.

If you get the sense that there might be some kind of “strings attached” with your partner paying – then definitely don’t go for it.  The last thing you need is to feel an obligation on your first-time trip together.

On the other hand, if the trip was your idea, and you can afford it – you may want to foot the bill.  This might allow you to feel more in control, as well as give you the ability to make adjustments to travel plans more easily if the need arises.

The sensible tact to take is to split trip expenses in half. This eliminates any kind of unspoken obligations, and leaves you both free to enjoy yourselves without weird financial issues or commitments getting in the way.

The Last Word on Taking a First-Time Trip With a New Love

As you can see, there are a lot of factors to consider when taking a trip with someone you’ve been dating for a short period of time. 

And while vacationing with someone you’ve recently connected with can be wholly exciting, it’s important to ponder these and other details before setting sail on the next love boat. 

Just remember to be safe, take precautions, and above all else – have a wonderful time getting to know your new paramour on your first-time travel adventure.

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Megan is an Australian Journalist and award-winning travel writer who has been blogging since 2007. Her husband Mike is the American naturalist and wildlife photographer behind  Waking Up Wild ; an online magazine dedicated to opening your eyes to the wonders of the wild & natural world.

Having visited 50+ countries across all seven continents, Megan’s travels focus on cultural immersion, authentic discovery and incredible journeys. She has a strong passion for ecotourism, and aims to promote responsible travel experiences.

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Is It Too Soon To Take Your First Trip With Your Partner? Here's How You Can Tell

Going on your first trip with your significant other is a big step in your relationship. Before you plan a vacation together, you want to make sure that it's not too soon to travel with your boyfriend or girlfriend. Even a short weekend away can put pressure on your relationship and test your compatibility and conflict-resolution skills. "A vacation is a great opportunity to strengthen a relationship but it can also test it," Benjamin Ritter, relationship expert and founder of The Breakup Supplement told Elite Daily. "The biggest problem you might encounter on your first trip together is that you are spending too much time together."

Every relationship is different, and every person is different. So, there is no set amount of time after which it's "safe" to go on a trip with your partner. Instead of a number of weeks or months, think about some dating milestones you two may or may not have achieved. You'll want to be past certain points before you consider going away as a couple. For example, have you spent 24 hours or more together? Was it comfortable, or did you feel like you needed space? Are you OK with going to the bathroom in front of your significant other? It may sound silly, but it's an issue for some people. Have you had to resolve a big conflict together yet? Were you successful? If you've reached these points and handled them together, you may be ready to spend time away with your boyfriend or girlfriend.

Here are three stories from couples who did go away together that may help you determine whether or not you and your partner are ready for a trip.

This girl suggests waiting until you're "official."

Last March, I had been seeing a guy for two months when he spontaneously suggested a long weekend getaway to a tropical island. We were 'exclusive but not official' (his words, not mine — ugh), but I was really into him and thought the trip would be romantic. I won't lie, the trip had its amazing moments: cocktails on the beach, insanely delicious food, salsa dancing with a hot dude, a luxury hotel room paid for by that same hot dude? Awesome. But all that made me assume he felt serious about me. It was confusing and upsetting when he faded out on me not long after the trip. I won't ever travel with a partner again unless we've been in a committed relationship for a while. At the time, I felt silly worrying about how we labeled our relationship, but the aftermath of the trip proved to me that the 'official' label actually does matter.

— Hannah, 24

This guy's story proves that you should probably have practiced resolving conflicts (and been successful) before you travel together.

I accompanied my then-girlfriend from Boston to Providence for a journalism assignment she had. We ended up getting in a fight because I guess I didn't let her pick enough music in the car and it somehow turned into a discussion about our whole relationship. We almost broke up over it, and only lasted three more months afterward.

This girl's experience shows that being comfortable with your SO before your trip is the key to a successful vacation.

My first weekend getaway with my boyfriend was a surprise trip he planned as my Christmas present. He made a reservation at a tiny, romantic B&B within walking distance of the Pacific Ocean. We walked down to the beach and had margaritas while the sun set and then went to the best burrito place in town. We had a romantic candlelit dinner and then walked back to the B&B to relax for a bit and find a place to go for dessert. I was so relaxed and happy and comfortable with him that I fell asleep at 8 p.m. He stayed up watching Die Hard and drinking rosé out of the bottle, waiting for me to wake up. I slept through the night.

— Sarah, 24

If you're still unsure if it might be too soon to hop on a plane somewhere with your partner for a week-long trip, Jess Hopkins , a millennial life coach, advises you to attempt a mini trial run. "Testing the waters before committing to a big trip is key," she says. "Plan a few smaller, lower stakes excursions that could emulate some of the challenges that could crop up on vacation. For example, go on a long hike or plan a full day of local museums to see how your partner fares when they start feeling 'over it.'"

Whatever you do, don't rush this major step in your relationship. If you wait until you're both truly ready, your vacation will be that much more enjoyable.

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25 Best Vacation Spots for Couples

Planning a romantic getaway? Here are the best couples' vacation spots around the world to visit with your special someone.

Claudia Fisher is a digital editorial director on the Commerce News & Deals team at Dotdash Meredith. She's been writing, editing, and strategizing for women's lifestyle publications in NYC for nearly a decade, with a special interest in beauty and style.

Elizabeth Rhodes is a special projects editor at Travel + Leisure , covering everything from luxury hotels to theme parks to must-pack travel products. Originally from South Carolina, Elizabeth moved to New York City from London, where she started her career as a travel blogger and writer.

One of the best parts of being in a relationship is having a built-in travel buddy — and enjoying uninterrupted one-on-one time as you visit new places together. A trip with your significant other, whether domestic or international, almost always guarantees you'll learn something new about one another — perhaps your girlfriend gets a rush from cliff diving, or your boyfriend can make friends with anyone despite only being able to say one phrase in the local language.

When you're deciding where you want to go, consider which components of a romantic getaway matter most to you. Are you up for sightseeing and doing outdoorsy activities together or do you lean more toward enjoying quiet moments in intimate settings with a view?

For instance, couples looking for a chance to fully unwind might opt for a beach vacation or spa weekend in a beautiful destination, while those searching for a once-in-a-lifetime adventure may want to book an African safari. Foodie couples might want to eat their way through Paris's fine restaurants, while more active travelers may prefer to hit the slopes or go snorkeling at the Great Barrier Reef.

Whatever your travel style, here are 25 of the best vacation spots for couples.

Bali, Indonesia

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If your version of romance is hiking through monkey forests and rolling rice paddies — or dancing to DJ sets and light shows until the wee hours of the morning — head to Bali, a beautiful Indonesian isle known for its vibrant nightlife scene. Stroll hand-in-hand on white-sanded shores in the southern part of the island or by the volcanic black sand beaches of its northern and eastern coasts. In addition to historic temples and shrines, Bali is also home to heaps of high-end resorts, yoga classes, spas, and Australian-influenced cafes worth checking out during your trip.

Santorini, Greece

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Visiting Santorini is like traveling to a cloud-like oasis that envelops you in an ethereal fantasy. In other words, there's no surprise as to why it's a popular choice among newlyweds looking for a picture-perfect honeymoon destination . The romance of the island pretty much sells itself; wandering the hilly, weathered streets, you'll be surrounded by bright white walls and blue roofs, while in the evenings, you'll have front-row seats to incredible sunsets. Once the sun is down, the island really lights up, with its houses, churches, and restaurants glowing like stars.

Ngorongoro Crater and Serengeti National Park, Tanzania

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Aside from traveling to Tanzania to hike Mount Kilimanjaro, many make the trip to see the country's incredible wildlife conservation sites and national parks. Going on a safari allows you and your significant other to share some unique firsts: the first time you see a lion, the first time you drive across the African plains, dotted with baobab trees, or the first time you meet someone from the local Indigenous community, to name a few.

You'll want to visit Ngorongoro Crater , the world's largest inactive and intact volcanic caldera. Its bowl-like shape makes a natural border for the animals, boosting the chances safari goers will be able to spot all of the Big Five — lion, leopard, rhino, elephant, and buffalo — during a tour. Serengeti National Park is another popular safari destination because of the area's mass seasonal migrations of wildebeest and zebra, its large lion population, and the sheer diversity of habitats and animals you'll find here.

Tulum, Mexico

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Two core pillars of many romantic vacations are relaxing in intimate settings and enjoying exciting experiences, and Tulum has plenty of chances for you to do both. Rotate between lounging out on tropical beaches, snorkeling at nearby Xel-Ha Park , swimming in a natural sinkhole (or cenote), and touring ancient Mayan ruins, many of which are still intact. After a perfect day in Tulum , packed with leisure, adventure, or both, the cherry on top will be grabbing a drink at Gitano and relishing in its funky jungle atmosphere.

Whistler, Canada

A great way to bond as a couple is by getting active, and skiing on Whistler and Blackcomb mountains is great for both veteran and beginner skiers alike. Take on the mountains, offering numerous trails of varying intensity, enjoy an overhead view of the snow-capped trees from sprawling gondolas, break for lunch at the mid-mountain lodge, and top off your day with an après ski special at one of the slope-side bars. If one day of skiing leaves you with wobbly legs and your fill of downhill action, there's a lot more going on at the base of the peaks. Whistler Village is a lively, pedestrian-only hub of bars, shops, and restaurants. The little winter wonderland is as charming as the inside of a snow globe, and what's better for a romantic getaway than that?

Cappadocia, Turkey

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For a fairytale vacation, there's nothing more fitting than a landscape dotted with "fairy chimneys," the tall, thin cones topping the many rock sites of Cappadocia. Cave churches, underground cities, and homes carved into the rocks work to create a whimsical aura usually reserved for the fictional realm. Floating high above the rocky terrain in a brightly-designed hot air balloon , you'll feel like characters wandering the pages of a Dr. Seuss book (or like astronauts discovering a civilization on the moon). Either way, the otherworldly experience will have you recapturing your sense of childlike wonder and awe together.

Paris, France

Most clichés became clichés for a reason, and so is the case with Paris' romantic reputation. Looking at pictures of couples in the City of Light, you can practically see the cartoon hearts in their eyes as they embrace in front of the Eiffel Tower. Paris and romance go together like Valentine's Day and chocolate, anniversary dinners and candlelit bistros, marriage proposals and world-famous landmarks… all of which Paris is not-so-coincidentally known for having.

Hakone, Japan

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While not as romanticized for cherry-blossomed strolls as its neighbor, Kyoto, Hakone is a worthy day trip from Tokyo, offering an intimate escape from city travel in the most relaxing way possible: hot springs resorts . Aside from relaxing in onsen (hot springs) at a traditional ryokan (Japanese inn), you can take advantage of the natural sites, like Lake Ashi and the volcano Mount Fuji , or tour the fire-engine red Hakone Shrine and open-air sculpture museum . The many transportation options , ranging from boats and cable cars to rolling train routes through the mountains, also seem like mini adventures, making yours all the more memorable.

Northern Norway

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If you've ever considered stargazing a romantic experience, northern Norway really ups the ante with its naturally occuring cosmic activity. The region covers about one-third of the country and is considered one of the best places to see the northern lights in Norway . They usually make an appearance from autumn to mid-April, while from late April to mid-August, the sun is still visible late at night thanks to a natural phenomenon known as the " midnight sun ."

Feeling adventurous? Venture even farther north to Svalbard, the northernmost inhabited region of Europe, to experience 24-hour daylight between April and August. On the opposite end of the light spectrum, Svalbard's January and February months have "polar nights," when night lasts for around 24 hours, making the aurora borealis particularly visible.

If you do decide to take this kind of trip together, be warned: Looking up at the stars in your own backyard might not be quite as impressive anymore.

Porto, Portugal

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Porto is a waterfront merchant city that seemingly transports visitors to an earlier time with its cobblestoned streets, baroque churches, and prevalence of port factories and family-owned businesses. Nearby in the Duoro Valley , you can visit vineyards where wine has been produced for more than 2,000 years, sample it, and participate in harvesting practices such as stomping on the grapes. It's the perfect part of Portugal to spend a day or two , if not longer. In a city infused with the culture of wine making and drinking, you and your significant other can get tipsy on the energy alone.

Amalfi Coast, Italy

Known for its natural and architectural beauty, Italy's Amalfi Coast is a prime choice for a romantic Mediterranean getaway. Travelers can bask in the natural scenery, hike through dreamy seaside villages with picturesque views, and visit famous sites such as the Grotta dello Smeraldo (the " Emerald Grotto "), as well as medieval churches, gardens, and museums. When you need some quiet time for just the two of you, there are a number of secluded hotels offering oceanfront views and luxurious amenities.

Buenos Aires, Argentina

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In Argentina's bustling capital, you and your significant other will never run out of activities to try, with lots of live entertainment and a multitude of restaurants and bars. For a day-to-night date, La Boca is a vibrant neighborhood known for Tango dancing and El Caminito, a pedestrian walkway lined with houses and shops painted in bright primary colors — strolling through this vibrant neighborhood is one of our favorite things to do in Buenos Aires .

Whitsunday Islands, Australia

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At the heart of the Great Barrier Reef, these 74 islands off the coast of Queensland, Australia, will have you sailing into uncharted relationship territory with unbelievable sites to discover together. Whitehaven Beach is one of the most popular white-sand beaches in the country — despite it being a tourist hotspot, you've got 4.3 miles to play with, making it easy to stretch out and find your own space.

In addition to enjoying blissful beach days, you can embark on some truly unforgettable and romantic excursions while visiting the islands, such as flying over Heart Reef in a helicopter, staying aboard a boat for a few days, or snorkeling at the legendary Great Barrier Reef.

South Caicos, Turks and Caicos

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While Turks and Caicos is certainly not a new destination for romantic vacations, most visitors flock to Providenciales, the first major stopping point on the tropical archipelago.

Far less popular (and far more secluded) are the pristine beaches of South Caicos , just a short, scenic connecting flight away. If you're looking for something truly special — perhaps to celebrate an anniversary or another special occasion — Sailrock Resort is a luxury property nestled within natural brush along white-sand shores that lead into crystal-clear water. You'll experience the type of picturesque serenity you thought was only accessible to movie stars, yet there the two of you will be, sipping colorful cocktails together on a hammock at the beach's edge, with nothing but the open, beautiful horizon spanning ahead of you.

No matter how active you decide to be, Barbados is one of the best vacation spots for couples. The island's west coast is home to several high-end resorts with various offerings to make your Caribbean escape extra memorable. Arrange some classic island excursions, such as snorkeling, private boat trips with companies such as Seaduced , or visits to local attractions like the spectacular Hunte's Gardens and Rihanna's childhood home.

For a dose of local cuisine and culture, spend an upbeat Friday night at Oistins fish fry or sample some of the island's best rums on a tour of the Mount Gay rum distillery . You could also kick back and make relaxation your number-one priority by simply enjoying the beautiful beaches and temperate water. For a dinner you won't soon forget, head to The Cliff , which overlooks the water in a sultry, fire-adorned setting.

Dalmatian Coast, Croatia

For the ultimate romantic vacation, charter a boat and sail along the Dalmatian Coast in Croatia. If you start your journey in Dubrovnik and end up in Split, you'll get a comprehensive look at the country, from nautical exploration to sightseeing in both small seaport towns and big cities. With a stopover in a new place every night, the transit is part of the fun, rather than merely a means to get from point A to point B.

Travelers mainly book Turkish gulets (or small yachts) with separate quarters for the crew. Companies like Gulet Yacht Adriatic Holiday offer packages that include the services of a captain, chef, and one or two crew members to help curate not just your route, but everything else you do while you're on the water or shore. While the busy season is typically from June through early September, trips also set out in October and make a great option if you want a bit more quiet and privacy on the Adriatic Sea.

Cotswolds, England

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Step into a romantic period piece on a vacation in the Cotswolds , located in the picturesque English countryside. The rolling hills and fields are dotted with the most quaint towns you'll ever find — popular stops include Stow-on-the-Wold, Bourton-on-the-Water, and Castle Combe. Grab a pint in a storied pub or tea in a cute cafe after spending the day exploring town after adorable town.

Jackson Hole, Wyoming

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What could be more romantic than snuggling up by the fire after a day out in the snow? In Jackson Hole , you can enjoy winter sports in a stunning setting just a short distance from Yellowstone and Grand Teton National Parks . Plus, you can book a stay at a luxurious property like Amangani or the Four Seasons Resort and Residences Jackson Hole for a truly romantic trip — or the Jackson Hole Mountain Resort if you're both skiing or snowboarding enthusiasts.

Charleston, South Carolina

Charleston is often a favorite city among Travel + Leisure readers , and once you visit, it's easy to see why. Dine at delicious restaurants, take a sunset cruise in the harbor (where you may even spot a dolphin or two), and visit one of the nearby beaches. For romantic accommodations, we recommend staying outside the city on Kiawah Island, a little under an hour's drive away, where you'll find The Sanctuary , a beachfront luxury hotel.

Tucson, Scottsdale, and Sedona, Arizona

Looking for a mindful way to connect with your partner? Consider booking a trip to a wellness resort with a spa and classes to deepen your relationship. Miraval Arizona , located in Tucson, has an all-inclusive experience that throws in fitness classes, health and wellness lectures, and spa treatments, among other amenities. The Civana Wellness Resort & Spa near Scottsdale offers a serene escape amid the Sonoran Desert, while Sedona, with its red rocks and mysterious vortexes, is another popular destination among wellness travelers.

Kauai, Hawaii

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Find paradise together on a trip to Kauai , Hawaii's Garden Isle. You'll find the best of both worlds, with a beautiful mix of lush jungle landscapes and beautiful beaches. Spend your days alternating between lounging or strolling hand-and-hand along the shores and exploring its natural wonders by foot, boat, or helicopter. Popular romantic resort options include Timbers Kauai in Lihue and Koʻa Kea Hotel & Resort in Poipu Beach.

Napa Valley, California

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A romantic jaunt to California's wine country might be the perfect getaway for couples looking for delicious vino, beautiful views, and world-class dining. Spend a few days touring vineyards together and tasting different varietals while gazing out at the rolling, vine-covered hills. You can also opt for a ride on the Napa Valley Wine Train for more scenic views. Retire to one of the many beautiful luxury resorts in the area, such as the Auberge du Soleil , Four Seasons Resort and Residences Napa Valley , or Solage, Auberge Resorts Collection .

Sea Island, Georgia

This Georgia barrier island resort offers secluded, five-star luxury across several styles of accommodations, including The Cloister, located in the heart of the resort, as well as private cottages. In addition to the beach, guests can golf, lounge by the pools, enjoy spa treatments, and participate in other activities like tennis and horseback riding.

New York City

For some couples, taking on a major metropolis is just as romantic as spending a week by the beach. And when it comes to big city destinations in the United States, it's hard to beat New York City . Every night is date night on vacation, so go to dinner and take in a Broadway show, enjoy extended evening hours at some of the world's best museums, visit acclaimed restaurants and cocktail bars, and stroll through Central Park to soak in the sights and sounds of the Big Apple.

Palm Springs, California

Escape to the desert with a trip to Palm Springs, surrounded by picturesque mountains and lined with palm trees. Plan your visit in the spring, fall, or winter to avoid the intense summer heat, and admire mid-century modern architecture as you hit the links or head to the spa. The Ritz-Carlton, Rancho Mirage is a luxe pick for a pool with a view, while the Parker Palm Springs is another trendy choice.